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Hey buddy,
I've just read the whole thread (took a day or two but i got there in the end) and it is probably the most informative thing on the whole site!
I was just wondering if you would be able to do a post detailing eye movements (such as accessing memory's and any other gems you have tucked away in your head).
While maintaining eye contact it would be nice to be able to know what they're really thinking/speaking.
Cheers man and thanks again for such an amazing thread
Bam.
Sorry for the untimely response man, didn't realize I had a question.
That is awesome this is a long thread and there is lots of info on here, that is very impressive.
Thank you for the gratitude! I appreciate that this thread is still going and I'm glad we are adding more to it. When I started this thread 2 years ago I thought it would have ended by page 2 but more questions and thoughts and it's a pretty lengthy very popular thread. Nice ego stroke lol!
When it comes to the eyes you also have to realize they move toward our interests so if a woman wants to kiss you she'll look at your lips. If she wants to take some of your drink or a drink she may stare at yours. People will look at what they are thinking about, so more often than not you have an idea what they are thinking about but here is the NLP accessing thoughts cues article I think you were referring to.
Here is the article I wrote on it for you put it up on my blog here There is a pic on there I couldn't get the pic to come out for some reason.
http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/09 ... are-lying/
Eyes can tell you a lot about where a person’s mind is, you can tell whether they are hearing their thoughts, seeing their thoughts, or imagining something. A lot of times you can spot a liar simply by eye movement. There are tons things you can read on a person to see where their mind is and the eyes tell us quite a bit of how they are thinking right now. When it comes to the eyes there are 6 basic ways the eyes access memories or creativity (these are written from your perspective, I.E. Your up and to the left not the person you are observe):
Left: When a person’s eyes move up and to the left they are accessing the visual construction area of their brain. They are imagining seeing something. Ask someone what color their dream car is (unless they own it).
Up Right: A person who is moving their eyes up and to the right is remembering something they seen. A good example is if you asked them the color of their first car.
Left: This is when they are creating a sound so a musician would be moving their eyes to the left when they are creating a sound. A hip hop mc when thinking of the sound of his voice as he says his lyrics would move his eyes to the left.
Right: Remembering a sound, this is when they are accessing the words to their favorite song or when you are trying to remember the sound of that song.
Low Left: This is the direction someone’s eyes move when they are accessing feelings. If you ask someone how they felt when they found out their grandma past on or how they felt when they were running a marathon they would look low to the left.
Low Right: A person who is talking themselves or going over thoughts in their mind will have their eyes low to the right. This why a lot of people with a lot on their minds are looking low to the right, they are telling themselves a game plan or what they need to do.
Be Careful – We aren’t all made the same
Some people will be the opposite they will look to their right when they construct rather than to the left. It’s important to baseline behaviors if you are talking to someone and they are a musician all you have to do is ask them the color of their instrument for a quick look at whether they follow the norm of right side access memory (remembering) and left (accessing creativity).
Good Liars Don’t Break Eye Contact
One common misconception is that liars won’t look you in the eyes when they lie, this isn’t true. An ashamed person may while they lie break eye contact but a good liar will look you right in the eyes when they lie. Don’t fall for it, someone who is accessing memories about something will break eye contact, someone who has it memorized and has been reviewing their lie won’t break eye contact. They aren’t remembering something, they are reciting a story.
Note: Lie Detection involves you following the Body Language Guidelines, always take them into account when reading body language.
Overall
It’s pretty simple overall to read where a person’s thoughts are. Most people follow the natural flow of accessing thoughts. This is one way you can always tell an honest person from a liar the honest person is remembering the incident while the liar is constructing the lie or already has the lie memorized and thus doesn’t need to access memory about the moment.
I don’t tend to use this info as often, I focus more on overall body language and where they are emotionally (microexpressions). I have used this info and it is really fun to use on a girl when she is thinking of a lie, or when she is making something up. You can use body language as a serious tool to connect with(or pick up on, sell to, etc.) a person man or woman because you understand where their mind is, their emotions are and comfort is. This like any tool can be over used and make you creepy if you are staring that intently into someone’s eyes while analyzing them (yes you will show this).
I hope that is enough, if you want more on the intention thing I will have a video talking about a woman using her eyes to direct her intentions sometime in the next month. Just filmed my 30 days of attraction just editing it for my Does She Like Me? Show, once I get that going every day for 30 days there will be an attraction signal video put up daily. Somewhere in that jumble of videos there is one focused on intentions shown through eye contact.
Peace and Love
Vic