This is a long story but I will try to be brief and to the point for you guys. I went out with a girl from work who was into me, we went to her house and watched a movie. Things were going fairly well, and I had just read Double your Dating. I used Cocky and Funny and I think it went well, but she was aggitated that I wasnt acting like myself and was using this routine.
The Cocky and Funny method was working good until it was a little too cocky and not enough funny, at which point I later learned by phone conversation that she was kind of creeped out and thought that I may be an abusive type. (She was ignoring calls and I told her if I call she'd better answer. I gave a little smile but I guess she thought I was being stone cold serious.) Also, we went to her house twice, once saturday and then sunday, I will just throw in events from both days without specification as it isnt really relevant.
The first night I didnt creep her out or anything, things went well after the movie, we kiss closed and everything was well, she said she wanted to see me tommorow after she was done working, I agreed.
The following day didnt go as well, I tried using a few other methods after she had been holding my hand and leaning on me to kind of move away, this made her think I was in a pissy mood and was angry with her. The same night I made a stupid joke about knives which was really idiotic looking back it it.. (The guys would have liked it.) and this really freaked her out at the time.
She said she didnt even know me anymore and didnt know what to think. A friend encouraged me to tell her that I had read some advice from a book and to tell her I was using some routines. (Stupid, I know, but I am learning from my mistakes and will not make them again, its all apart of the game.) She obviously wasnt happy about this and told me to be myself, blah blah.
I thought I was finished, she said there probably would be no second chance. However that chance seems to have come up, she is still indicating interest in me and wants to know the real me. I dont understand after so many fuck ups how she would still give me a chance, as in most cases a guy would have been finished for sure.
She wanted to make plans to go out to eat tommorow, do you have any suggestions on how I can regain some footing to get her comfortable with me again? I know it might be a long shot but she has still indicated some interest, so I think it is worth a shot..
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