Be careful with girls who touch you a lot - they fall into three categories:
a) Confident happy ones with boyfriends.
b) Very attractive ones who enjoy f*cking with you.
c) Genuine girls who are interested.
I don't know what you look like or behave like, so am going to extrapolate from the fact you're analysing an exchage over a magazine:
a) 10% chance she's happy with a boyfriend. Girls unhappy in a relationship do not flirt happily - they still feel guilty if they're seeking to provoke a breakup by bringing in a third party.
b) 80% chance she's giving you protean gestures. [What are those and certified way of turning it against - below \/]
c) 10% chance she's genuinely interested. Only about 10% of girls are cool enough to flirt with you on an equal basis - as was happening here. Most of them want you to make more moves than them.
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So the 80% of attractive girls giving prothean gestures (I'm assuming she is very attractive) do it for fun, the power, and observing the reaction. They'll pick a guy who seems innocent - or not innocent but too stupid to ever be able to do anything but be lead to dead ends.
How to deal with it: Take offence. Next time she touches you, rebuke: Tell her gently, looking softly hurt; "Don't patronise me." Say it in the same tone of voice you would say the words in a different context: "Let's not make this difficult." Wise, affectionate, but baleful.
Chain reaction: She'll ask what you mean. You say nevermind; wise, baleful, slightly amused. She asks again: Respond thus. If she doesn't: Leave a pause then deliver the same.
"I think its cruel, someone as pretty as you, how could you be interested in me."
1. Honest-sounding compliment.
2. You're in command of the situation.
3. You're saying you're not interested - but putting the idea in her that its a possibility she could be.
4. You've given her an emotional hook. Now she wants to demonstrate she isn't leading you on, because it makes her look like nasty. Girls like this enjoy the cruelness of the game, but only if they're not confronted with it. Her only option is to demonstrate, even by increments, more interest, to prove she wasn't f*cking with you.
You forgive with a smile that says you don't mind. But leave it *just* awkward enough afterwards that she feels you think the same thing - now you're humouring her. That will drive her mad.
I could tell you what happens from there.
But I won't.
Experience: Its worked twice, on exactly this very attractive teasey type.
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. I teased her more and more, and when i left she gave me more attention than normal.