There's a lot of advice the gurus at this stuff give to guys with your problem. One of the most common one is opening as many sets as you can (going up to a group of girls and striking up a convo) until you feel totally comfortable doing this. They say the opener doesn't matter, and that you can start it off with a ridiculous question (ie, "Let me ask you a serious question, do you floss before, or after you brush"). Personally, I don't like this sort of meaningless canned material. Make your opener more situational, and make it demonstrate high value (make you look like a cool guy). For instance, you say you hooked up with some girl back home, and that you are new in college. How bout this as an opener:
"Hey girls, let me get your quick opinion on something, but I've gotta get out of here in a couple of minutes to rejoin my friends. I started dating this girl from back home just before coming here, and now she's text messaging me asking me if we are boyfriend/girlfriend. We've dated for two weeks! Why do girls have to put labels on things like this so quickly?"
Girls love relationship questions. You will never find one that isn't intrigued. This question makes it seem like you are dating, a girl wants you, and that you aren't hitting on this group of girls. Just get used to opening, then work on the rest of your game. Oh, and some advice, you are in the PERFECT situation to get over your opening fear. You are new to college and EVERYONE is looking for friends. Approach, approach, approach. You won't be shunned. Also, a neg is a minor insult that you tell a hot girl in order to make her feel like you are "better" than she is. Doing this correctly can make someone out of your league want to date you. This is complicated stuff. Research the Mystery Method for more detail. Also, read Neil Strauss's "the game" and Mystery's new book. Thats where you need to begin. Goodluck, and don't waste this year of college.
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