Quote: 1) Was curious if I should hit her up right away, or wait a few days... :
It depends when you met them and what kind of impact you made on them. I usually text same day if it's day game, or leave it two days with night game.
If you feel that you didn't make a very big impact on them, it's better to text sooner because it means you still have a chance to continue on the emotions that made her give you her number in the first place, however, if you wait, she'll lose those emotions and it'll become harder for you to make a good impression.
The opposite is true if you've made a strong impact, you can text the same day and pretty much arrange a meetup, or you can wait a few days and she SHOULD remember you, and it'll be incredibly easy to pick up the conversation again.
Also, with canned openers, it's very easy to make a negative impression on them, because most of the canned text openers are pretty lame, they'll get responses, but it'll be hard to go anywhere with those responses (in my opinion) unless they truly suit your personality. It's much easier to reference the conversation or something that will make her KNOW that it's you.
2)And if I should go straight into trying to get her to hangout or come party.... or just try and establish more comfort through the text game:
Text game shouldn't be used for creating comfort, neither should emails, they're for joking around, building attraction, comfort is better made in person or on the phone. You can do short DHV's whenever she asks where you are, or what you're doing, etc. but if you plan to see her regularly, that's more dependent on your lifestyle then anything else, it's not really a good thing to DHV solely to DHV, if what you're doing is a DHV, you can say it.
3) Also if you guys had any specific openers or routines that worked particularly well I would love to hear them...
Specific openers, etc. are really only good if you know that they have your number, they're a good way to spark a conversation then, but when getting first contact it can often backfire. Most of the openers are quirky because quirky gets a response, but if a girl gets a quirky message from a number she doesn't know, it's very easy to ignore it or to think that the guy is creepy.
Great advice. I'm often upset about the purpose of texting as I usually just text random stuff to girls even though I get good responses. So now we know texting is about building attraction instead of comfort ty for the advice man
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..... and shit like that and demonstrate a lot of interest in text. In my expereince don't do it. Just be totally chill and as a rule of thumb IMO and what Ive heard from some gurus, say as little as you can in text and on the phone. Just enough to get them to meet up with you. Otherwise you can screw it up. I've been very guilty of that in the past. Joking and sarcasim can really fail IMO just with written text.