I'm not sure if this should be a field report or not, but I figured I'd post it here and ask a couple questions about the next step.
Attended an event through meetup.com and this girl was there last week, we talked a little and afterwards one of my friends said she looked a little interested.
This week there was another meetup. I walked past her without recognizing her, then realized she had been looking at me so I asked her if she was here for the meetup... she replies yes and smiles THEN I realize who it is, and say "oh Jill, you look different for some reason." (She was wearing glasses, I think that's what threw me... hopefully this came across as a neg instead of me being inconsiderate.
)Another girl is there and neither of them saw the rest of the group, so I went to check the back, found everyone and told the girls where to go. I went toget my drink, and when I got over there the only seat open was right next to Jill. Perfect.
We talked quite a bit, I did a tiny amount of kino. (Nudged her arm, encouraging her to kick some people off another couch when more members showed up and poked her arm again later mock-blaming her for something.) Eventually she got to talking to the guy on the other side, and my drink was gone so I got up to get another drink.
When I got back the other girl on the couch had kinda moved into my space, so I grabbed a chair across from the couch. Jill looks up and says "What, too good for us now?" Or something, I replied back with something like "For the moment, anyway." And started talking to some of the other people there. Basically trying to look more social and like I wasn't stuck on just her or something.
The only problem was, a few minutes later the seat on the other side of her opened up and I hesitated to take the seat back... and one of the other guys sat next to her for the rest of the night.
Jill and I still talked off and on over the couch, until I just started getting really tired and one of the other girls was kind of boring everyone with lame stories. So I stood up, and next break in one of those stories announced I was leaving, at which point everyone else decided it was time to leave too. (Heh, suddenly I felt just a bit alpha
) I kind of waited while everyone gathered their stuff, then started slowly walking towards the door. I had hoped she'd be there, but I guess she didn't have all her stuff or something because she was nowhere in site... so unfortunately I never got a chance to get her number or try to make plans or anything. (I felt like waiting outside would have been creepy...)So, feel free to critique all that. Not sure if I should have left the couch or not, but I'm pretty sure I should have gone back.
Then the question is, what's the next step? Wait until I see her again? Send her an email through meetup? Add her on facebook?