Okay so I like this girl. Here's the scenario. I'll break it down to bullet-points so y'all can get through it quicker.
- She started working at my job for Summer.
I kissed her on a night out and, although she kissed back, she didn't seem overly into it.
Kissed her the next night, sober. Same deal.
I gave up and started dating a new girl.
She started dating a guy from my job.
My thing with the other girl ended.
Target's thing with workguy continued.
Three weeks ago, we kiss again. Same deal as before; she's kissing back but the effort seems to be all on my side.
One week ago, we get drunk in work and flirting alot and I see her talking to work guy.
He heads home a few minutes later and she asks me to share a cab (as we live in same direction).
We leave and she notices my (unrelated) bad mood and bates me over it, trying to find out what's wrong.
She pins me against a wall and gets close, asking what's wrong.
I neg, telling her that trying to sexualise the situation won't make me open up.
She kisses me.
She tells me that she and workguy ended on perfectly mutual terms tonight.
I go slightly AFC and admit "I like you. I'm sick of playing it cool and playing games and dancing around this. There it is."
She kisses me and is all over me. Apparently, hearing me actually SAY that I like her is all she needed to open up.
She admits to liking me back but "doesn't know what it is exactly" that she likes about me. I'm presuming it's my game (but who knows).
She also mentions something along the lines of "I wasn't planning on getting into anything..."
Then we, unfortunately, have a fight that ends in me walking away and leaving her to get her own cab. In my alcohol-fuelled state, I thought this was a solid takeaway. We sort the whole ordeal out over the phone.
Days later, she's negging me hard and then admits that she's still pissed with me over leaving her. She tells me I never apologised. I apologise as she's DEFO seriously pissed and it's not a time for gaming whatsoever.
She accepts and I return to gaming. Very very light negging, with a bit of CF thrown in.
I say "I know you like me". She replies "I like being a jerk to you."
At the end of convo (over facebook chat), I tell her there's a few of us heading out on thursday if she wants to come and I bail. She texts saying she already has plans. I don't reply.
3 days later, I arrive on facebook and she opens chat saying "Hey stranger, where've you bin?"
We chat and when conversation wanes slightly on her side, I tell her I'm going to the gym.
Later tonight, she initiates chat again saying "I thought you were going out tonight?"
I tell her (truthfully) that the buzz has been postponed till tomorrow. I say it's gonna be a wild one. She says it sounds like it will. I change the subject, purposely not inviting her this time.
Time passes and we chat more. Suddenly, she goes offline and that's it.
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Apologies for the length. That's about 3 months condensed there.
What dyou guys think? Is it the "I wasn't planning on getting into anything..." thing or did I totally fuck up by leaving her stranded alone in town (not really safe)?
Direct asking her to hang out hasn't worked so far (blown me out every time) so it probably has to be a group related drinking buzz the next time I see her. But how to handle? Can I salvage?
Advice!
Apreesh.
Greyz.
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