LOL . . . relax. I am certain you will figure this game out quite soon. You have a good attitude; You seem excited and willing to try this thing out. And it doesn't seem you have any chips on your shoulder. So OK . . . let's figure this out:
You began your interaction with this girl as this sociable, goofy guy: "I don't remember your name, but I still want to take you clubbing . . . by the way, is your boyfriend's name Bobba Fett? Will he beat me up?" She laughed . . . She gave you a hug . . . and she gave you her contact info . . . This is ALL GOOD.
Then you side stepped a bit.
Quote: So things went well I was very happy!
What were you so happy about? You gamed her a bit and she ASSUMED that you wanted to "take her out" (as in a date). You didn't tell her this. She only assumed. So she offered you a test of sorts. She told you that her, "boyfriend won't like it if YOU TWO WENT OUT." And then she offered you a consolation prize of a "lunch together" and you took the bait. With your answer, you told her:
1. You're a kid in puppy love.
2. You don't have many other things to do than to follow her around.
3. She can just put you in the back burner because hell, you'll go "gaga" over sharing a school lunch with you.
4. There are absolutely no negative consequences to telling you, "NO".
So you told her, "I'll LET YOU HANG OUT WITH ME," but you have to figure out why this is even a Pick Up cliche' in the first place. How do you figure you'll "let her hang out with you," when she tosses you a crumb and you're slapping your fins together like a seal for the next bite?
See . . . she figured YOU out. She bluffed with a pair of 3's and you went all in with an ace high card. Once she won, the game was over. You're no longer a mystery. You're no longer a challenge. You're just a plain guy who happens to talk to her more often than others.
Don't be afraid to fold. A little lunch date in school isn't your goal just as winning a few small hands isn't the goal in poker. You want the DAMN POT. (I don't know exactly what that means to you but I'm certain it's not just a lunch date)
So keep your goofy, sociable, "can't really pin this guy down" frame. If you have goals to get with her, then you need to one way or another set up a ONE on ONE meeting with her. Words are cheap. Poker players are always "talking, talking, talking . . ." to figure each other out. So . . . let her talk all she wants to but you need to just stand strong and play out the entire round of poker.
Teasing her might be one way to do it but you need to also think about why "teasing" works for some. Being goofy, social, teasing, cocky, manly, etc . . . it all amounts to a sales pitch. How will you entice her to go to a club with you? Thus far, all you did was beg. This "round" is over for now but it doesn't mean you won't face her again another time. You just have to show up with a better strategy.
You began with a somewhat goofy/social frame. I'm thinking this is your personality so STICK WITH IT. It will WORK!
1. Start gaming other chicks NOW! And instead of focusing on "asking/begging" them to go out with you. Begin SELLING the fun to them. Tell them how much fun a certain club is and tell them specific stories of nights out. You will absolutely hear them go, "Wow, that sounds like a blast! Oh my God, that sounds like fun. It's at this point you can go, "Hey, you should come next time . . . yeah, it's a blast . . . " And it's at this point you can tease a bit. "Oops . . . but will your mommy let you go?"
2. Game "your girl" like ANY OTHER. Hell, you can even tell her the same lines word for word exactly as you told others. If she balks or tries to give you a "crumb" and you just treat her like a little nervous kid. (That's exactly what she is) And you tell her things like, "Ohh . . . yes, I wouldn't want you to disappoint your boyfriend either. Well, I'll see you next time." (Drop her like you'd do with an unsuited 3 and a 6) Just walk away!
3. Then the next time, you'd have some stories to tell wouldn't you? A particular night out she missed? All the fun you had? What do you think she was doing at the time? I'll tell you what she was doing. She was doing NOTHING. Go ahead and ask her. . . .then you say, "Oh . . . That sounds . . . fun . . . Well, I gotta go meet somebody at 5 so I'll see you later."
4. Do your best to avoid cornering her. By this, I mean don't let on that you want to date her, that you have this big plan to be her boyfriend, etc . . . in a public area. If you come on so strong early in this way, SHE WILL FOLD her hands. What you want to do is have her buy into the next round of betting by continuing to keep her guessing. Then, when you manage to get her one on one . . . and there's no one else around to keep her skittish, you can go all in and turn on your game big time.
Disagree with antic. This one isn't "stupid" but instead a very, very typical little girl. Pretty easy to figure out and definitely open to more rounds of fun interaction. Every vagina is worth a little investigation . . .
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