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Author:  Iron_Mike87 [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 6:03 am ]
Post subject:  Horrible First Date!!! Need Advice ASAP!!!

Ok well heres the deal, I met this girl online back in May and about 3-4 weeks ago started talking to her again. Since them 3-4 weeks everything was going good I was talking to her almost everyday on text/phone.. I felt some real attraction/Chemistry going on. Well about a week ago I made plans to meet with her tonight and I did Well Shes about a 50min drive from where Im at so its not exactly close by any means... By the way Im 22 shes 18... Now when I got there I hugged her and said HI and then when of her neighbors walked by and asked if we wanted to go have a beer in there back yard so we did..After that we went back to her place (she was home alone) We sat on the couch and then I tried to see how far she would sit from me, She wasnt real far but not real close and then her fukkn cat ended up jumping and laying between us... So then she decided to throw a movie on and everything was going good we were talking and joking around and shit like that.... Then about a little less then healf way thru the movie we go outside to have a cig and her fat friend shows up and and just starts talking with us and then came back in with us and sat in a chair across the room... So Im sitting there thinking WTF is this shit... She didnt tell her to leave or anything so I just figured whatever ( I remember a podcast Tariq Nasheed did before and always said if u ever end up on a 3rd wheel type date that is bad and that means you arent getting any type of pussy lol) also Im not sure if she might have texted her and told her to come over I dont think she did becuz she acted suprised too see her but u never kno... So then we cut the movie short and I ask her if she can come with too a gas station with me thinkin maybe thatll give us some alone time but then she ask her friend to come with... We go and wen I get back in her drive way I just said nice meeting both of you and told the main girl to hit me up.. Then as I left I noticed my phone batt was low and I needed that for the GPS to get home so I text her to ask her for a "favor and told her its important" she texts me back with "What?" and "I just left"... So then I tell her the situation and she says "Yeah Ill go back home now"... When I got in I knew damn well she didnt go anywhere becuz her girls car was still in the same damn spot when I left and both there shoes where in the same spot and when I walked in they were both on the comp and keep in mind this was all within maybe 10mins so I dont know why she would lie and say she left? Maybe she thought I was trying to come back and kick it again IDK.. SO I did that and then about 30mins later as I was driving I sent a text saying " Next time we hang out it should be out by me, Alot more shit to do"... I got no reply to that... NOW MY QUESTION IS, WTF DO I DO NOW??? DO I FORGET ABOUT HER, DO I SEND A TEXT OR PHONE CALL ASKING IF SHE THINKS IM MORE THE FRIEND TYPE OR IF SHE WOULD LIKE TO GET TO KNOW ME MORE, WAIT FOR HER TO HIT ME UP (EVEN WEN WERE TALKING THE WHOLE TIME SHES NOT THE TYPE TO START OFF A TEXT OR PHONE CALL), ACT LIKE MEETING HER WASNT LAME AS HELL??? Im so dissappointed people, All the work I put into this and it seems like nothing out of it... Its like when you go to a vending machine and it eats ur dollar that type of dissappointed lol.......THANKS FOR READING AND REPLYING PEOPLE I APPRECIATE IT A HELL OF A LOT

Author:  Chillburg [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:44 pm ]
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short and simple answer: yes, this one got away. drop her, move on. plenty more girls

Author:  TheJ [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 12:59 pm ]
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That was painfull... man learn to write in paragraphs. Makes it a lot easier to read.

Alright. There is a couple of 'mistakes' I can spot.

First off, the 2-3 weeks of texting/calling. You gave her too much attention, too needy. I bet she got to know you a whole lot better. Getting kills wanting. Remember that.

The other thing I saw what how you reacted to the fat friend. The proper way would have been to 'game' him. Get him to think highly of you. Show the girl indirectly that you can be social. You where thinking "*grumble* fat kid... *grumble* screwing up my date *grumble*... why doesn't she kick him out *grumble* ...". Girls can feel this this attitude change and it will show. This girl obviously respects this fat kid or he woudn't be hanging aroudn her. If you don't respect him then you will take a hit for it.

Should you drop this one? Yeah probably. If you keep on 'gaming her' then distance yourself more. Be less involved. Try another get together somewhere. If it doesn't work, no biggie. Move on.

Author:  Jav [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 1:41 pm ]
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GO, meet more girls.



BTW, i would never drive a 50 minute drive for a girl I just met and is plain ordinary.

Author:  dw3llz [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 2:16 pm ]
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dead set. sorry m8 but u got plenty more girls.

btw: driving 50 mins = desperation? and girls smell desperation MILES away...

Author:  Iron_Mike87 [ Sat Sep 12, 2009 6:01 am ]
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short and simple answer: yes, this one got away. drop her, move on. plenty more girls
Ok Ok no offense to anybody but that seems awful quick to throw in the towel :? I mean the only advice people are giving me is to move on, No tips on how to improve the situation? I saw that someone said to be nice to the fat friend (it was a female BTW) and I was there was no bad vibes between me and her friend at all I made a couple jokes with her and a little small talk and tried to get her involved in the convos... Another thing is it wasnt 50 MILES it was a 40 MINUTE drive and I use to drive at least 35 for my old job so its not like I was buying plane tix so I dont think thats a problem.... but yea idk if anyone has any advice on what to do now as in how to I see if she was feeling me as a friend type or more then that Id appreciate it..... Im not the type to let one lil speed bump mess up the car ride if you know what I mean.... Thanks people

Author:  dw3llz [ Sat Sep 12, 2009 2:04 pm ]
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when a person dies, they try to revive them. Once they fail, they leave the body to those who care. Consider your text at the end of the date to be the crash cart worker that comes in yellling "CLEAR" and throwing the paddles on the persons chest.

Its done. She didn't seem interested in you because she had her friend over and she was definitly afraid of being alone with you because she brought her friend to the gas station.

IF YOU MUST GAME ON, give it two weeks. dont talk to her. if she calls or texts, tell her your busy and you cant. you have to get it in her mind that YOUR THE TARGET. YOUR THE CHALLENGE, she has to qualify herself to you!

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