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| Author: | Detimilnu [ Sun Aug 30, 2009 11:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | I get nervous before I start a conversation |
I dunno, before I start a conversation over MSN or over the phone I get rally freaked! I don't know what to start with. "hey... how are you? me too.." and that's it? Sometimes I'm a great smooth talker, getting dates over the internet etc. But lately I really freak when I'm thinking on starting a simple conversation with a girl I want to be with. Any good suggestions? How I get over this "fear"? Any good openers? |
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| Author: | Reagen [ Sun Aug 30, 2009 4:24 pm ] |
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Phone, "Hey what's up?" "What's happening today?" MSN "Hey beautiful, what's up?" |
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| Author: | Rosewood [ Sun Aug 30, 2009 5:21 pm ] |
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You have to let conversation come naturally, I have never been a fan of using too much pre-canned material, maybe just an opener or two. Just say hey, and perhaps ask a question to the girl about something you know is going on. "Hey, how did that test go for you last week??.....Yeah i hate that teacher too" or "Did you see that new movie ____ yet?" Just make sure you don't dominate the conversation and use lots of open ended questions, not yes and no kind of stuff. Don't forget, that more you think about the worse your nerves will be. Just do it and once you started, there is no turning back, and that will make it much easier. Good luck dude, and remember, Self-Confidence!! You are the Prize!! |
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| Author: | Majishan [ Mon Aug 31, 2009 1:25 am ] |
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it might be stupid, but my suggestion is practice practice practice! how do you practice? go to the mall.. go have "small" conversation with girls that passes you by.. start off with simple questions. "how are you doing today?" some might answer with "good" or any short answers, that's fine, because you're not trying to hit them up. You're just practicing! Sooner or later, you will feel more confident. Once you start setting off that vibe as well, the girls are just not going to give you simple answers. Most of them might feel your "good" vibe, and start asking you questions as well. Now, by having these practices, you will be prepared of what to say next. Some canned materials is good to use here, but keeping it original will be even better. You just have to ask the right questions, and not bombard them to her. Ask questions that she can relate, and something that you can relate so you could make the conversation longer than 1 minute. Good luck! |
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| Author: | natzuur [ Mon Aug 31, 2009 2:13 am ] |
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Your probably getting too nervous because of over-thinking, Canned openers can help... but I wouldn't use them all the time Don't get caught up in your mind thinking "oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, what do i say, shes so hot" instead just say anything, not everything has to be super smooth. Think of talking to a friend, not some super HB. Be playful, humor is a great thing. On msn: you: "OMG you won't beleive what just happend to me!" her: " hi, what?!" you: " <improvise>" Call and pretend to be like a wrong number, or act like your trying to call a pizza place. You:" Oh herro, I am looking for pizza-time pizza, is right numba?" Her: her "uhh, what? no.." You " Oh, you sound pretty, make good pizza?" Her: " Who is this..?" You: " Haha, what's happening, it's <me>" That way you will have something to talk about right away for a few minutes after you say who it is, she'll def be talking about it, and all you had to do was one minute of silliness. Of course you can change it to suite you anyway you want. the most important thing is, don't stress, and don't worry so much, I know the feeling, we all do. |
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