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Author:  BombshellBrunette [ Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:10 pm ]
Post subject:  openers 4 a girl to use on guys
From the male prospective, I'm a girl wondering whats a good opener to use on a guy when at the club or at a party. any suggestions? :lol:
Author:  KristallNachte [ Mon Aug 24, 2009 11:22 pm ]
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"hi"


but according to The Rules a girl should NEVER open a guy. Because he won't be having to invest much of himself into the situation, and can easily walk away.
Author:  Crowd [ Tue Aug 25, 2009 12:03 am ]
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As somebody who has been picked up by a girl a few times I can tell you this. Every time this went down, I still was the opener, but they definitely closed on me. Saying, "Heres my number, text me sometime." or "I'm having a party later, you should come. Here's my number!"

My suggestion to you would be to get yourself a male wingman. I've done this for a girl I used to date. I'll act alpha with her around her target, and then invite him to dance with her (This really throws him off his guard because he's not expecting this. He thinks I'm her boyfriend at this point, and I just invited him to dance with my girlfriend.). If he says yes, your in. If he hesitates, I say, "No?! Too late!" Then he follows on cue. From there, if he's cool, he'll get your number. If not, I'd let it go and heres why. Once, I motioned to this guy to get her number, cause he obviously didn't have a clue. He turned out to be socially inept, horrible in bed, and a complete loser.

Hope I helped!
Author:  disoblige [ Tue Aug 25, 2009 2:02 am ]
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I have a question but I cant make my own topic yet :(.

I am very confident this girl across the streethas a crush on me. I want to make sure. I am thinking of giving her a poem.


"Infinite in mystery is the gift of the goddess,
We seek it thus, and take to the sky.
Ripples form on the water's surface
The wandering soul knows no rest."

myemail

Is it a good idea?
Author:  Killians [ Tue Aug 25, 2009 4:12 am ]
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"hi"


but according to The Rules a girl should NEVER open a guy. Because he won't be having to invest much of himself into the situation, and can easily walk away.
That is sometimes true. However, some guys appreciate a girl that can do that.

I think the best way to open a guy is asking a question or complimenting him. Then it is up to him to keep you interested. If he is interested he'll keep the convo going.
Author:  DonPua [ Tue Aug 25, 2009 4:18 am ]
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I don't think opening a guy is that difficult. I think the best approach is the direct approach. Guys don't get opened so often, so a direct approach looks the best to me. All this indirect stuff is invented for women because they always play hard to get.
Author:  KristallNachte [ Tue Aug 25, 2009 5:55 am ]
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because they always play hard to get.
since its in their best interest to play hard to get.

and while some guys will appreciate a woman making the first move that like, doesn't mean it's gonan be a good relationship.


if the guy doesn't notice you, you approaching him is just like handing him something he doesn't need, but can totally use.

and if he does notice you and want you, but can't approach you, you approaching him isn't gonna fix things, since in all likelihood he's gonna have attachment issues, ntm be a bit of a pussy.


keep yourself looking good, and give off the demeanor of being open and approachable.
Author:  BombshellBrunette [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:22 am ]
Post subject:  approach
well i think i am open and approachable, but I feel being in a state that has pretty HB9s walking around, i should just go up to the guy and make the move. or else i'll be wondering all night, why didn't i say anything? i think the direct approach might be the best way...but i'm still figuring it all out
Author:  Gevaudun [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:03 pm ]
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Girls don't open, it's like offering it on a sale...
Girls should use eye contact, to hint the guy, and body language to make them open...
It goes like this, if a girl opens, then is game over, the male ego goes sky high, and his confidence boosts to extremes, and that not only ruines the girl's game, but allsow spoils the guys game, and overcongident, self-indulged guy, looses interest and instead of focusing on the game, he starts beeing a jerk...
IF u are a GIRL and u want to pick up, just make urself more avaible,thru body language, Ex: if at a party, walk pass him and make eye contact, or bumb into him...dont go like "hi" or anyother line, he'll just think that u're an easy-girl
Best of luck
Author:  BombshellBrunette [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:26 pm ]
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dont go like "hi" or anyother line, he'll just think that u're an easy-girl


There was a sticky on the PUA forum that said to try saying hi to every "girl" that you saw in a mall or public place. So you're saying a guy can say hi to a girl, but girls can't?
Author:  Jaybot [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:35 pm ]
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pffft girls do open its just the structure is different, if you have a male wing ideal (it is how I used to get "the hottest guy"'s for my housemates) but otherwise open in a friendly way never direct. The guy will assume he is in, so let him think he is losing you, by turning away or disagreeing. Throw in some shit tests and banter and you should be set.

As for getting the day 2 me and my bro decided the best way ever last night. "We should grab a drink some time here is my number" .... he texts you get his number or better yet you get his so he isn't sure if anything will come of it then on the day you want to meet text asking if he fancies going to the pub (even "pub?" will do).


But yar this is my next writing project, I want to do a MM style plan for women, as I don't think MM is necessary for women and doesn't achieve the right goals.


Men build attraction and have to show they are worthy, women have attraction and have to see if the guy is worthy.
Author:  dartagnan [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 1:54 pm ]
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flash your boobs, and he's yours

guys are easy
Author:  Sinn [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 1:58 pm ]
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It can be scary for guys when girls approach them too directly.

I know the first couple times it happened to me I thought the girl was a hooker :)

I'd recommend an innocuous compliment or question about something he's doing/wearing.

Something like " I really like that shade of blue."

or " Do you know of any good places to go around here tonight?"

Will suffice.

Then you just need to make it obvious you like them without seeming slutty(unless you're trying to pick me up then slutty becomes a plus ).

JS
Author:  Mister Boss [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 2:10 pm ]
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Hi,

I'll have to agree with Sinn on this one. Don't go direct!
I've experienced this too, and yes it feels weird. It's in a guys nature to choose the girl, not the other way around. Just show the guy some massive IOI's, you know them I guess.

He will approach you then. If not, he's a scared pussy. And you don't want pussies right.

Good luck,
mister boss
Author:  Killians [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 2:18 pm ]
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It can be scary for guys when girls approach them too directly.

I know the first couple times it happened to me I thought the girl was a hooker :)

I'd recommend an innocuous compliment or question about something he's doing/wearing.

Something like " I really like that shade of blue."

or " Do you know of any good places to go around here tonight?"

Will suffice.

Then you just need to make it obvious you like them without seeming slutty(unless you're trying to pick me up then slutty becomes a plus ).

JS
exactly what I just said above...
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