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| Author: | imtheman23 [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 1:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | I don't know what I did wrong... |
Okay, so I met this girl on the bus, she actually thought me and my friend were kinda cute, because t here as two girls. One fat, one hot. I got the hot ones number. So I called her Sunday, two days after getting the number. Sunday she couldn't go because she had a family affair to go to. So I call tuesday and she said her friends over and its gonna thunder so she can't but shes like hit me up tommorrow so I did, and it ent straight to the voice message but her friend calls me on her own literally 30 seconds later saying that the girl walked out to the grocery store....and she said she'll tell the girl to call me back and I'm like ehh...just tell her to text me. and she's like "Hey, you called?" through text I didn't wanna go all direct and put all my cards on the table so I said "yeah..im looking for something to do today" and got no response, 3 hours later she accidentally sent a text again the same one and im like yea...i repeated my earlier text, no response. Did I play this wrong, is she playing hard to get? |
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| Author: | jsquared [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 2:11 am ] |
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There isn't enough negative or positive information here to make a fair estimate of whats going on. I believe at this point you are thinking to much on to little. Proceed as you would. |
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| Author: | imtheman23 [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 2:12 am ] |
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If I get two texts ignored, chances are she's not interested, right? That's just give up worthy. |
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| Author: | Dangerboy [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 2:28 am ] |
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Don't say that you're looking for something to do. You have stuff to do. You're a fun guy with millions of options. You DLV'ed yourself my friend. Girls are always looking for the most fun option, so why would she bother trying to think of something to do with you if she already has other options? You're not putting all your cards on the table if you invite her to join you for something fun. So, the lesson here: Always have plans. It doesnt matter whether it's a crazy party or if you just feel like going for coffee, as long as you have a plan. |
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| Author: | imtheman23 [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 2:31 am ] |
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but I already lost with this one right? |
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| Author: | Dangerboy [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 3:08 am ] |
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Not really. You can either think of something really cool to do on Saturday night and then invite her along or you can leave it for now and then shoot a text her way on Monday or so. I'd probably go for the latter and send something funny to get a fun conversation started... list-of-text-messages-game-vt21175.html |
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| Author: | desertEagle [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 8:07 pm ] |
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girls like organization and neatness ....have a plan ....place (specific) time (specific) ...but only tell her about 2 days in advance....that way she cant "magically forget" |
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| Author: | Corey [ Thu Aug 20, 2009 8:42 pm ] |
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Quote: Don't say that you're looking for something to do. You have stuff to do. You're a fun guy with millions of options.
Ummmmmmm...........why are you trying to tell him what you think he is? What if he isn't a "fun guy with millions of options"? (This isn't an insult at the guy)Quote: but only tell her about 2 days in advance....that way she cant "magically forget"
I'd say about 2 hours in advance. With the two days thing, they can forget.
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| Author: | jiniba [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 12:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Well.... |
When you always ask her to hang out and such, you DLV yourself (Demonstrate Lower Value) because you seem bored and nothing to do. Thats what an AFC does (Average Frustrated Chump, lol). If she wanted your number, she was into you. But probably your responses kinda gave her the warning that you were just another guy. Now you should play the phone game (probably only hope left) unless you hang out, then go with a routine. Go and look at routines for phone game with text and that might help. 
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| Author: | KristallNachte [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 12:49 am ] |
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Quote: why are you trying to tell him what you think he is? What if he isn't a "fun guy with millions of options"?
um affirmations dude "fake it till you make it"anyway, liek i told you in chat (USE THE SAME GODDAMN USERNAME!!!) timebridge on the first encounter. |
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| Author: | Corey [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 2:39 am ] |
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Quote: Quote: why are you trying to tell him what you think he is? What if he isn't a "fun guy with millions of options"?
um affirmations dude "fake it till you make it"anyway, liek i told you in chat (USE THE SAME GODDAMN USERNAME!!!) timebridge on the first encounter. |
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| Author: | Dangerboy [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 4:40 am ] |
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Quote: Quote: Don't say that you're looking for something to do. You have stuff to do. You're a fun guy with millions of options.
Ummmmmmm...........why are you trying to tell him what you think he is? What if he isn't a "fun guy with millions of options"? (This isn't an insult at the guy)The simple fact of the matter is that if you don't look like a fun and interesting guy then your chances of success are much, much lower than it could've been. The second part to this is inner game, which is actually the main reason for me posting it. If you have that mindset and if you believe it, then you're whole approach to PU changes. Having that mindset improves your game so much that I can't even believe how much I've changed and improved since adopting that mindset. Post something useful to help the OP rather than taking worthless shots at other guy's advice. |
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| Author: | BadolzoN [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 6:42 am ] |
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Buyer's Remorse/ blowing you off is a nice way to say "I don't like you" It happened to me 3 days ago with a girl I thought I loved. :/ She used to love me but I fucked up so now she's blowing me off all the time. No such thing as playing hard to get with girls, they just don't like you. Girls don't play "the game", they have never needed to. What is she gaining from playing hard to get? You still like her at the end of the day, playing hard to get is a motive to get a person to like you more, but girls don't need to do it because they get all the guys w/o problems. |
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| Author: | Workaholic [ Fri Aug 21, 2009 11:51 am ] |
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Quote: Buyer's Remorse/ blowing you off is a nice way to say "I don't like you"
Alpha's play hard to get for several reasons:It happened to me 3 days ago with a girl I thought I loved. :/ She used to love me but I fucked up so now she's blowing me off all the time. No such thing as playing hard to get with girls, they just don't like you. Girls don't play "the game", they have never needed to. What is she gaining from playing hard to get? You still like her at the end of the day, playing hard to get is a motive to get a person to like you more, but girls don't need to do it because they get all the guys w/o problems. a) They generally have a busy lifestyle so everything else around them comes second mine are: Career, Fitness, Women (this is not my favourite things in order it would be Women, Fitness, Career). b) By playing it nonchalantly and being aloof (ensure that you play hot to show their is interest still) you seperate yourself from probably 80% of men in her life, most guys plan/wait on girls plans etc, by creating your own reality everything is on your terms, this keeps her interested because she cannot work you out, ever wondered why girls say this: "I am debating whether you are a player or not" or "I just cannot work out whether you like me or not?" Through making her feel different emotions it kills the number one emotion that kills all male to female interaction-boredom. Quote: No such thing as playing hard to get with girls, they just don't like you.
Obviously they hate it just as much as most guys, everyone likes to be loved! By using hot and cold you can create and maintain that interest, you just screwed up like you stated and paying the price for it.Quote: She used to love me but I fucked up so now she's blowing me off all the time.
Quote: um affirmations dude "fake it till you make it"
This is a major talking point on the forums, and for most people it works for others they do not have enough self belief and acceptance for who they are as a person and through first developing this they can build to this level. I am confident in my ability but everyone has moments of weakness and through reasuring myself and thinking you have done stuff way more challenging then this etc it helps me to either accomplish it or fail a lot less then I would have done. As specified below:Quote: If you have that mindset and if you believe it, then you're whole approach to PU changes. Having that mindset improves your game so much that I can't even believe how much I've changed and improved since adopting that mindset.
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| Author: | BadolzoN [ Mon Aug 24, 2009 4:12 am ] |
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Very nice job Workaholic. You just reiterated my points in a longer way. Best advice though? Watch all of Mystery's videos ( A lot) Easy |
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