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Author:  kerrgowg [ Sat Jun 27, 2009 10:15 pm ]
Post subject:  I have to get her but how?? We've been friends for years
Ive got a friend who lives like next door to me. And i think she likes me but i dont know quite yet. But i really want her, i've knew her for like years now. We liked each other like 3 years ago but it didnt really follow through, so now i think ive got a new chance. I see her very seldom, what should i do when i see her, and what should i talk about? What should i try to do to get her? And how do i know if she likes me?
Author:  kerrgowg [ Sun Jun 28, 2009 12:22 pm ]
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Please guys any help would be awesome!!!!
Author:  hollywoodd [ Sun Jun 28, 2009 2:25 pm ]
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do something..thats what u need to do
ask her to go get some coffee or wutever with you, so you guys can catch up since u never see eachother anymore
if u really think u have a chance then go for it
the longer u wait the more things can happen that will stop you from being with her
Author:  kerrgowg [ Fri Aug 07, 2009 12:43 pm ]
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Havent really spoked to her lately.. shes been on vacation, but now shes back.. So.. just one thing.. Whenever i see her we flirt alot, and she plays with her hair.. So one time she IMed me and we talked a bit.. She said she was going to put on a movie.. And i thought she was going to invite me but it never happened.. Im really confused.. Do you think she likes me?? Should i invite her over?
Author:  SiNfUl [ Fri Aug 07, 2009 1:34 pm ]
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If she is flirting, then you need to escalate, but be cool about it. Don't start panting and wagging your tail just because she is showing you some attention.

Flirting means she has some interest in being more than just friends. Your job is to amplify that attraction/interest.

push/pull, playful banter, cocky/funny, these are all good ways to build up the sexual tension (which is what you want).

The movie she mentioned was an invitation. Next time say something like 'cool, I'll be over around (set time), just make sure you aren't lying around half nekkid, that's just rude'.
Author:  kerrgowg [ Sat Aug 08, 2009 7:13 am ]
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But she never litterally said she was going to invite me over.. she was just like.. im going to put on a movie.. and i got a bit excited and started writing a lot. and later on she was like yea.. im gonna put on this movie.. see you..
maybe i scared her off? What do you guys think?
And do you think i should invite her over to watch a movie maybe?
Author:  Kalel [ Sat Aug 08, 2009 7:34 am ]
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SiNfUl covered techniques well enough. I'm just here to comment on the motivation you need to take action.

I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to assume very young. My advice is just go for it. Don't worry about the future, things have a way of working themselves out as long as you are determined to take action. Most likely she has been waiting for you to make a move for a long time. So make it happen. Ask her out. Ask her to your house. Invite her somewhere. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as you do it. If you do nothing, or the same things you been doing, nothing will change. You have the power to change your situation, all you have to do is take action.

Let's break down the potential pros and cons of not going for it.

Con: You don't go for it and she starts dating some other douchebag. Then you have to see them together all the time because she live right next door, and since your friends you'll probably end up being the 3rd wheel when they go and do stuff. Then you'll be piss off all the time because you knew you have a chance and you didn't take it.

Pro: You've got the girl if she says yes. If she doesn't, you guys will probably still be cool, but at least she'll respect you and you'll respect yourself.
Author:  SiNfUl [ Sat Aug 08, 2009 5:13 pm ]
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But she never litterally said she was going to invite me over.. she was just like.. im going to put on a movie..

Of course not, that is what girls do. Women drop hints and leave clues 'hoping' you will pick up on them. Even if their interest level is through the roof, they seldom tell you what they want (or are thinking). I know, it doesn't make any sense, but with women, what does? lol

Listen to Kalel's advice and DO something, make a move...but I like said before, be cool. Do not play the needy wuss boy role.

If you want to invite her over to a movie, go for it.
Author:  kerrgowg [ Sat Aug 22, 2009 12:07 pm ]
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well.. i finally invited her over via msn after she started writing to me.. so she was like who else is coming.. and i told her no one... and she wanted other people to come also... what is that all about? I just answered that i didnt have space for more in my room.. so i took her number and told her i will write to her later on.... help meeeeeee
Author:  foxratpig [ Sun Aug 23, 2009 8:00 am ]
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You invited her over into what is (for her) enemy territory. She needed other people around to feel comfortable and that it wasn't going to be a pickup situation. My guess is she would have felt more comfortable if you went over and watched the movie at her place because she was on home ground, as it were.

May I ask a question? She's your neighbour, so why are you talking to her on MSN? Go and talk to her in person!!!
Author:  Kalel [ Sun Aug 23, 2009 8:10 am ]
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well.. i finally invited her over via msn after she started writing to me.. so she was like who else is coming.. and i told her no one... and she wanted other people to come also... what is that all about? I just answered that i didnt have space for more in my room.. so i took her number and told her i will write to her later on.... help meeeeeee
Before I comment, I need to know a few things. How old are you? Are you in high school or are you an Adult? And how much time have you really spent alone with her? Do you usually only see her with other people and out in public?
Author:  kerrgowg [ Sun Aug 23, 2009 10:04 am ]
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Im 17.... I only see her on random occasions outside... i havent spent any time with her for 2 years almost.. but were fliriting extremely much when we see each other.. It would be random for me to just walk up to her and knock on her door since we havent really spent time with each other
Author:  Draconic8 [ Sun Aug 23, 2009 7:55 pm ]
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Well if she's a little resistant to go to your place, the other guys here have said it perfectly. Her place is more comfortable to her.

If you have her number, why not just go for coffee or bowling/mini putting? That's neutral ground and with the last two you can have a lot of fun and she'll really enjoy being around you. She'll also think you're not just trying to get in her pants since that can't possibly happen when you're playing golf :D

Keep building attraction since it's clearly there. Eventually she'll be comfortable enough to be around you (At your place :wink: )

The other posts here have it nailed I must say. Just do it. You've got nothing to lose here.
Author:  kerrgowg [ Sun Aug 23, 2009 10:12 pm ]
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But it just wouldnt seem right to take her to bowling or something like that... I wouldnt feel comfortable, and she wouldnt either..... I think i will try to watch a movie with her... If its on my ground or hers, whatever.. I cant really invite myself over to hers place, right?..... But should i try to avoid getting other people around as well?? Shes a very cuddly person, so we'll probably cuddle during the movie.. And when watching a movie how do you build up attraction, so i can go for the kiss?? Im a rookie at this,, so i really need your help guys....
Author:  Kalel [ Mon Aug 24, 2009 8:01 am ]
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Well it seems to me that you are trying to get a reward without risking anything on your part. It's like you want to go on a non-date, that ends up with a k-close. It doesn't work that way, there is always a risk associated with any reward.
If you want this girl, then you are going to have to risk getting rejected, and put yourself out there. Don't hide your feelings or dance around your interest. Ask her out. Of course it's going to be awkward to "hang out" together, when you see it like a date but you never asked her out on a date.
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