Here is the best advice for guys new to the forum. It's a secret that all the moderators hide from us because it's what made them soooo good and they dont want you to know.
You ready?
Here it comes.
Practice.
Surprise!!
Shocking aint it? I was completely flabbergasted when I learned this. But fellas, its true. The only way to get good with women is to go out and practice. So instead of sitting infront of your computer trying to absorb all this pickup information at once (like I did
), just go out and do it. Quit making excuses, buck up and go out and do it. Also, the best way to learn is to take it one step at a time. So Im going to lay out a little guide to help you start out. Oh and if you have oneitis, forget it. Thats not love, thats obsession. The only way to get over it is to meet other women, then you'll see that she's not so special. Hell, you might even be able to get with her once you start studying and PRACTICING pickup. So here is what I want you to do. Memorize one opener to use for the night, or if you have trouble talking to strangers then first just make small talk with a few people whether it be standing in line at the bank, in the grocery store, with a salesperson at walmart, it dosent matter. You can talk about the weather, Obama, the basketball or baseball game last night, whatever. Once you've done that then your ready to use your opener.
Now turn on your favorite music and turn it up loud. Rock, Rap, Metal, whatever just something upbeat and gets you pumped up. Shower. Hell sing in the shower. Shave. Put on some tight fitting clothes, but not too tight. Throw on some deoderant and a spritz of cologne. Maybe a peice of jewelry if you have it. Now look in the mirror and repeat this as many times as needed:
"I am confident. I am a 10. I get what I deserve. I get what I want. I am the leader of men. I am the MOTHER FUCKING LEADER OF MEN. I love being me. Wherever I am, is the best place in the world to be. I dont need the approval of anyone except myself. I define myself. I know what I want and I do not procrastinate in getting what I want. I find it extremely easy to meet new people and make friends. I protect those who are close to me. I am passionate. And god dammit I LOVE BEING ME."
How do you feel now?
Hold onto that feeling...
Now I want you to go to your local mall.
Smile.
And then open 3 women with the opener that you have memorized.
Once you have done that you can either eject or continue the conversation. Your choice.
Then tomorrow, I want you to memorize a neg or two. "Your nose wiggles when you laugh" one of my personal favorites. Do the same thing you did yesterday (shower, shave, tell yourself your the shit). Go to another social venue, or the same one if you want, it dosent matter.
Smile.
Open 3 more women and incorporate your negs into the conversation. Then you can either eject or continue the conversation. Your choice... but by now I'm hoping you make the latter decision to stick with it
The day after, I want you to sit down at a table with a peice of paper and a pencil. List 5 things you would like to change about yourself or would like to acquire (this can be things like humor, muscle tone, etc). Once your done with that, write down 10 things you like about yourself and/or are good at (you have nice arms, white teeth, good at martial arts, etc).
Repeat that list of 10 good things out loud. Now think of a past experience where you had to protect a loved one (one of my best stories is where I got in a fight with a guy because he called my ex a slut and slapped her drink out of her hand -- true story, and I whipped his ass). Usually protecting loved ones are the easiest stories to tell so we'll start with one of those so you can get a feel for what a DHV story should sound and feel like.
Once you have your story, read over it again and rewrite it adding more details to it. And by details I mean descriptive words and emotion. Add feeling to it. "I have never been more pissed off in my life and yet scared shitless because he was so big!" Got it?
Now, recite this story to yourself over and over again out loud so you can remember all the details and emtions, not just the jist of it.
This should help you: comprehensive-guide-to-makeing-dhv-stories-vt16465.html
Here we go again. Do the same thing you did 2 days ago and yesterday (showering, shaving, telling yourself how fucking sweet you are). Your going back out.
Go to a social venue, again I dont care if its the same mall you went to the past 2 days, any place that has hot girls.
Smile.
Open 3 more women. This time both incorporating your negs and your new highly tuned DHV story. Dont Eject. Go for the number close.
Now. How much better do you feel about yourself? Better dont ya? Your becoming a Pickup Artist. Aint it feel great? Congrats bro your making great progress.
Keep with it fellas.
Peace