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| Author: | CerebusJR [ Sun May 17, 2009 6:51 am ] |
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is it okay for your girlfriend to have a online boyfriend? what'd you guys do? i am in this shit situation now. i do not wish to drop her because she still treats well |
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| Author: | ArtificialNatural [ Sun May 17, 2009 9:54 am ] |
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That's a tough one man. I wish I had more details about the situation, but at face value it seems like your relationship needs either an overhaul or an ending. Clearly, if she feels the need to go outside of the relationship and talk (or do other things) with other guys, then one or more of her essential womanly needs are not being met. If you don't want to drop her, you've got to figure out what it is you're not doing that he is, and fix it ASAP. In the mean time, I'd probably start chatting with girls online and keeping your options open. You don't necessarily have to break up with her to do this, seeing as she's set the standard that this sort of behavior is okay in your relationship. If she gets jealous about it and tells you to stop (and she will), then maybe think about pulling the "I think we need to take a break" card. Don't be mean about it, just give her something to think about. She'll either want you back or get with the other guy, but if she chooses the former, she'll have a lot more respect for you as she knows you have the ability to let her go if her behavior is displeasing to you. Either way you're set though, b/c you'll be talking to other girls and have a whole new set of possibilities waiting for you on the other side b/c of it. Best of luck. |
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| Author: | Conker [ Sun May 17, 2009 3:05 pm ] |
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ArtificialNatural regarding your advice about her getting jealous about him chatting to girls as well, I really like how you said to tell her "We need to take a break" rather than "Well you're doing it so it's okay if I do it!" The latter would have been my first thought, but now that I compare it to your suggestion, I can see how essentially saying "well you started it!" is much more in danger of sounding like your actions are just out of jealousy and spite, something you were provoked into doing, rather than something you chose to do yourself. |
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