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Author:  Cycle [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 10:59 am ]
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I'm not sure if it being approached or not but what should I say if someone compliments me on my clothing like my hat or something like that? normally I just say thanks and continue on with whatever I'm doing... is there something else I should say??
Author:  Senior Duck [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 1:30 pm ]
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For fuck's sake... a compliment is not an approach. What the hell should you say other than "thank you"?

Damn, this "seduction learning" thing ruins personality and common sense, in some cases.
Author:  Krylon [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 2:04 pm ]
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First off hes right, thats just a compliment, not an approach. Although if they are good looking they have already initiated a conversation. Just continue by telling them some outrageous story about the thing they have complimented you on. If they actually believe you or not doesn't matter, because when they ask if its true or not, you can just say "No but that was a great story wasn't it?" This works especially if you come out with something really outrageous that makes them laugh.
Author:  Flipside [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:39 pm ]
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For fuck's sake... a compliment is not an approach. What the hell should you say other than "thank you"?
Bit harsh isn't it? It is the "newbie questions" forum.
Author:  Cycle [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 5:40 pm ]
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Thanks for the help i'm gonna make a couple great stories about it thanks alot! :D
Author:  Senior Duck [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 6:07 pm ]
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@ Flipside: yes, maybe it was a little harsh, but there's a reason behind it. You see, people who first come into contact with "the seduction game" are usually confused and have a tendency to ask a lot of questions instead of trying to think for themselves. A harsh answer can motivate them a lot better than a gentle answer to a rather stupid question.
Author:  Monkey [ Mon Jun 25, 2007 11:21 pm ]
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There is no such thing as a stupid question.

Is a compliment an approach? Sometimes. You can build an interaction out of it, regardless.

And one of the major problems I see, especially with people new to the community, is over-analyzing. Because we can now analyze a social situation, we do it CONSTANTLY. And that can be both helpful and harmful. Learning to balance how much we analyze vs. how much we just let happen is one of the most critical skills a pick-up artist can learn.
Author:  Methuselah [ Tue Jun 26, 2007 2:27 am ]
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Thats a good tip for any noob. The seduction game is about analysis and processing of raw data we receive from the conversations and social situations we find ourselves in. More or less a form of very useful psychology. But, it is not all about analyzing. Alot of it is just being yourself, the analysis serves as a way for people to get comfortable and understand particular social situations, but be wary of how much you analyze. For history has shown us, in all walks of life, that humans often over-rationalize themselves into pretty absurd and sometimes dangerous situations. Think about it.

As far as a compliment being an approach, it could be. Its all situational, someone could just be giving you a compliment, nothing more. However, she could also be reaching out to you, it depends. The course of the conversation is left at your door-step once a compliment is received. The advice given above is a suitable example of one way to continue with it, there are dozens of others.
Author:  Senior Duck [ Tue Jun 26, 2007 7:28 am ]
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I'm afraid there are a lot of stupid questions. I've seen, heard, answered to stuff like "How should I hold her?", "What should I say when she asks where to go?" and many more. Yup, over-analyzing, the belief that there is some kind of "magical pattern", plus the crazy question "What would an Alpha male do in this situation?" are the diseases of most newbies.

Now, regarding the compliment, it depends a lot upon what you understand by "compliment". To me, a compliment is "Hey, that's a nice shirt!". And I say "thanks"/"Thanks, man, yours too"/etc.. A potential approach is "That's a nice shirt, where did you get that?"/"Nice shirt, do you dress like that usually?". Meaning, the kind of stuff that calls for more than "thanks". But, who knows, I might be wrong. Like I said, there is no absolute truth :) .


Anyway, a section for articles would be more than helpful, in my opinion. Newbies would have somewhere to start, to learn the basics, than ask question on more complex topics.

And no, I'm not a newbie-hater, I rather like them :) .
Author:  Goldmund [ Tue Jun 26, 2007 10:26 pm ]
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I'm sure that Mystery has said the point of peacocking is to attract attention. It could be good or bad but either way it's an emotion. I've heard him say on Youtube "If a girl comes up to me and says she hates my hat I know she's actually attracted to me." So it would be even more logical that if she likes your hat, or whatever, she's also attracted to you. Also keep in mind that other people are not so cognizant of their social dynamic; it's subconscious. And if you don't think about it that wary think of it this way. By you wearing the object you actually approached her.
I will say though, I'm very new to this.
Author:  Monkey [ Tue Jun 26, 2007 10:41 pm ]
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Just because a question pertains to a topic that's less-than-vital doesn't mean it's a dumb question. The answer to most of those questions is "Well, it doesn't really matter. You're over-analyzing it. Just relax." These questions are a matter of calibration, and though we don't need to come up with some complex answer for them, we do need to recognize their validity.

We learn by asking questions. We also learn by answering them. I don't know how many times I've been brought back to focusing on the basics because someone asked a question I had an answer for. I can't think of the number of times someone's said something I've already known, but in a way that it solidified that knowledge in my mind. We learn from asking and we learn from answering. Even the "dumb" questions.
Author:  Giacomo [ Thu Jun 28, 2007 2:37 am ]
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I don't know wether you would classify it as an approach.
But if she makes a compliment on your clothing she is 'opening' you and initiating conversation. If one of you guys walks up to a woman and says some statement like 'Your hat is nice' you would probably say that you opened her.
It is not overanalysing at all. Because if she initiates communication with you it is in almost all cases and invitation to conversation and and open.
Author:  Impact [ Sat Jun 30, 2007 11:14 am ]
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If you like her put the hat on her, and say thanks, you can be my little sidekick we can go cowboy racing together! ill have the stallion and you can have the donkey! its already working out between us... so when are we getting married? Play it and have fun.
Author:  Desire2Fclose [ Sat Jun 30, 2007 1:43 pm ]
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There is no such thing as a stupid question.

Is a compliment an approach? Sometimes. You can build an interaction out of it, regardless.

And one of the major problems I see, especially with people new to the community, is over-analyzing. Because we can now analyze a social situation, we do it CONSTANTLY. And that can be both helpful and harmful. Learning to balance how much we analyze vs. how much we just let happen is one of the most critical skills a pick-up artist can learn.
I know what you mean about overanalyzing. In fact, I am the king of it. Not too long ago I had a different screen name here, Eager2Fclose (which no longer works for some reason), and I posted a topic about an email conversation I was having with an ex. Someone replied that the main reason I blew the whole thing was because I overanalyzed what she wrote. It's a hard habit to break.
Author:  Starbuck [ Sat Jun 30, 2007 9:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: being approached
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I'm not sure if it being approached or not but what should I say if someone compliments me on my clothing like my hat or something like that? normally I just say thanks and continue on with whatever I'm doing... is there something else I should say??
Someone? I'm assuming you're a guy and it's a girl that's complimenting you.

If she looks good, introduce yourself and ask her for her phone number.. :wink:
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