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| Author: | kiwi-indian [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 2:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Choice between two girls |
I've met up with two great girls. I like one more than the other but neither is a done deal. I am not sure how to play this in order to 1) get the best deal for myself and 2) not end up hurting either girl. I am not a jerk and I don't want to see one girl behind the other's back. I want to make a decision on which girl I want to be with and then stick with it. However I don't know how to do this and whether it is too early to make this call as I've only been going out with both girls for about a week. I guess it is ok to date two girls at one time as long as you are not too involved. Well, that's the problem. I maybe getting "too" involved with both girls. With the first one it's beyond kissing and is now down to heavy patting and stuff. With the second girl it's sort of just at the kissing stage ... but that is bound to change very quickly. Both girls are hot and have personality traits I find attractive. It's a hard choice and I don't want to leave this too long as it will only end up hurting more. Any help on how to handle this situation will be most appreciated. Thanks |
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| Author: | kiwi-indian [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 8:36 am ] |
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I'm going to do the right thing. I'm going to go with the one I like the most. |
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| Author: | Impact [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 11:48 am ] |
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I think you should date both. |
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| Author: | Rye Lee [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 11:52 am ] |
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Quote: I think you should date both.
How iconic that this is your 666th post, lol!I actually kinda agree with Impact though, unless you're falling in love with one, then why not just date both and see where things lead? As long as you don't make any kinds of promises to be monogomous then it's fine, girls do it all the time and it's really a natural human thing to do based upon how we've evolved and how our society is set up. If one of them says that they want it to be exclusive, THEN you have to either make the choice or say that you don't want to be exclusive, but until then there's nothing saying you can't enjoy seeing both women. |
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| Author: | Cinnamon Spice [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:45 pm ] |
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Make sure both girls know that you're not exclusive though. And make sure they know that they can date around too. There's nothing wrong with non-exclusive relationships and I would argue that you can get very serious in a non-exclusive relationship (I'm in one and I love my main boy). But the key thing is honesty and communication. Make sure those are both very, very strong before you try this. As long as you're honest with both girls then you're not seeing one behind the other's back. And as long as both girls know they're allowed (and hopefully encouraged) to see other boys as well then it's perfectly fair. Now if you're not okay with any of the above either the communication, the honesty, the seeing of other girls and/or the girls seeing other guys then it's not for you. But if you want to give it a try, open your mouth and communicate to the girls. On your bike. Cinnamon |
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| Author: | Impact [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 6:02 pm ] |
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Quote:
I actually kinda agree with Impact though, unless you're falling in love with one, then why not just date both and see where things lead? As long as you don't make any kinds of promises to be monogomous then it's fine, girls do it all the time and it's really a natural human thing to do based upon how we've evolved and how our society is set up. If one of them says that they want it to be exclusive, THEN you have to either make the choice or say that you don't want to be exclusive, but until then there's nothing saying you can't enjoy seeing both women.
kudos! yeah i realised the number..freaked me out actually haha! |
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| Author: | kiwi-indian [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 9:24 pm ] |
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No, I can't do it. I'm sticking with one. Thanks for your help. P.S. I guarantee this will come back and bite me in the ass. Why? Cos that's what always happens!!! |
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| Author: | Cinnamon Spice [ Tue Jan 27, 2009 9:41 pm ] |
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Open, Honest, Communication. Then it'll bite you in the ass less often and less hard. |
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