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| Author: | God [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 8:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How do I get out of my house and become social? |
I want to get out of my house and get a social life so I can start living my life up. I just don't know how. I'm a 19 year old full time college student who lives at home. I don't feel comfortable bringing anyone over to my house because I feel uncomfortable with my dad. He is a little arrogant and annoys me. I have no friends at all and all I do is live in my house and chill on the internet. I am blessed with good looks or so I'm told. It makes me feel a little weirder that I have no friends and never do anything in my youth but sit in my house. But anyways I'm trying to fix that. I know that I could just go out to a club and start being social. But that kind of terrifies me. I would like to go with some friends and maybe comfortably play some game and work on my skills. but that is just my ideal situation. I think going out to a grocery store and striking up convo terrifies me even more. Do you think it would be a good idea to find some puas in my area and go out to a club sarging? I was going to take the style life challenge but then school started and I thought it would be to much to keep up with the daily challenges he gives. Even though it sounds like a great 30 day solution. |
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| Author: | -Code- [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 10:12 pm ] |
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What area are you in? I'm kind of in the same position. |
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| Author: | mauahah [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 10:31 pm ] |
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Meet people to study with in your classes. Join a club or organization on campus. |
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| Author: | God [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 10:42 pm ] |
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Quote: Meet people to study with in your classes.
That's a good idea. I don't know about about meeting the people in my classes and asking if they want to study though it seems kind of outlandish. I think I could enjoy a club though.Join a club or organization on campus. Code- I live in DC. Quite a distance lol |
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| Author: | Mr_Elusive [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 11:01 pm ] |
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Clubs at school are great. Chances are people are there to meet others as well. A few of my buddies and myself joined a salsa dancing class to meet new people, see if you can find something like that too. |
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| Author: | mauahah [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 11:14 pm ] |
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I would not consider studying with people from class unusual at all. All you really need to do is meet, communicate with the people that sit around you, and then offer to get together to study. Classes that are difficult or have group projects are obviously the best place to start. You can meet new people and hopefully get better grades! Also you don't need to focus on PU and girls, just make friends and work on building up a social circle. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 12:58 am ] |
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Try meetup.com. Its a site that allows people to organize groups with a common interest to meet up at physical locations. |
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| Author: | destrukkt [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 1:09 am ] |
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It seems like you need to be taken under someones wing, or to be led into the social scene with someone else. Look for one, or a few people at your school who have similar interests but who attend parties and have a good network of friends. As they realize that you're not a creep who never talks to anyone, chances are you'll get invited to some parties and since you'll know people there already it won't be as terrifying. |
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| Author: | jjizzla [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 1:32 am ] |
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You just explained me to a "T", I live in MD Im in college, live at home-embarrased to invite anyone over, dont have a social life and am rather attractive. That's so funny |
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| Author: | blazerfan [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 10:04 am ] |
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Look for a job with people who are your age(especially if it has attractive females working there). Also join a club where you are forced to interact with others. I had no friends for a little while after i moved but once i got a job i met a few people and it kept sprouting to the point i have too many friends now and em selective on who i let be my friend. I've never tried going to a club by myself it seems to creepy. But if you can pull it off no hurt in trying. |
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| Author: | Philly B [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 3:53 pm ] |
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I recently moved into the city from a town just outside. All my friends still live back there and I know few people in the city itself. What I did was I decided to pick three things I wanted to learn/join/pick up. However, only one of the three really worked out (swing dance lessons) but it was a great idea so far as I'm concerned and I only took one lesson yesterday. Just find things you want to do or learn, look for them and do them. You'll meet people there for sure, not just clubs offered by your college, which is, by the way, the best option for you because you meet people your age with similar interests and it's people from the entire college, not just your class. |
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| Author: | =Prize= [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 6:51 pm ] |
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When I was in the same situation I started with some activities that seemed fun and where I figured I could meet peolpe. The one that stuck for me was dancing. |
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| Author: | Synergyxox [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:14 pm ] |
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I think the most importatn thing you can do is MEET PEOPLE, people that you see everyday walking to class. I have friends from colledge that the only reason we even know each other is because I saw them everyday while we were walking to different classes and I finally just said "hey" You can do alot from organizations too. Social clubs even fraternities (you don't have to be a frat daddy), and that mght even provide you with somehere new to live if you aren't comfy at home. Also teams could help. The debate team can help you work on your speaking and quick thinking. A sports team is good for your health and comrodery. Or as a last option, you can not make any changes and nothing new will happen. Give it a shot man and make some changes I think you'll have a good time. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 8:35 pm ] |
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Go to Fraternity parties and tell them you're interested in rushing (even if you're not). They will welcome you with open arms and get you connected into the college social scene. Who knows? You might even end up in a great organization of brotherhood based on values that resonate with what you believe in. |
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| Author: | Slywalker [ Sun Jan 18, 2009 10:08 pm ] |
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I agree with "mauahah" you are also not mentioning if you are athletic in anyway. If you are at least somewhat athletic I recommend you joining a team, a gym or just take classes in some sport. It's a great way to get out and girls like guys who are active. When I moved to Palm Springs I didn't know anyone, but I play socccer so I found a bunch of guys my age who played twice a week, they invited me to some party and now I've made lots of friends, and with friends of their friends etc. You just have to start something and then be open for everything, be the guy who is always there for the others and you will be invited everywhere. Remember that you're not in the game only for girls, but also to make friends! good luck.. |
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