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Author:  jack187 [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 1:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Problem talking to girls I'm attracted to.
So here’s the problem I notice in myself. I can naturally (kind of) flirt with girls I ‘m not attracted to and then when a girl I am attracted to is around, I’m a complete AFC.

For example:
Girl I’m not attracted to: Good morning Methos! (smile)
Me: Well It looks like someone had a good morning lay. I’m jealous, who is this guy stealing my work crush? Were going to have to talk. (I continue to my cubicle at work)

Girl I’m not attracted to: (texting me) Hey I’m on my way.(meaning she is on her way into work late)
Me: I'll save you the seat next to me. ;-)
(its funny because her desk is assigned next to me already)

Me to the girl I don’t like (I walk by here desk , smile and wink)
Girl I’m not attracted to: are you hitting on me?
Me: I just had something in my eye... are you hitting on me? Cause I don’t think Jon( just randomly picked a name) will appreciate that. (Point to the picture on her desk.)
Girl I’m not attracted to: O him... thats just my friend. His name is bla..bla
Me: I understand. Just a friend…. (walk away laughing)


Girl I do like: Why are you smile this morning?(I smile more now that I’m fighting the AFC in me)
me: Its a good day.(I could say so much more.... I’m thinking of you. or you have that effect on me. Anything would be better.)
Me: how is you day going
Girl I do like: Good. ? ( It 7 am… her day just started… like she has anything to say other then “good”
Me: Well have a great day! (Lame!!!)


***So I know that even my flirting is AFCish but my point is I have no problem talking to girls I’m not attracted to, but then if I do like them I cant think of anything good to say.
Author:  Stygian [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:07 pm ]
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There is no difference between these girls. Simply your own peception of them, and there is nothing we can do to help you with that realistically.

I would suggest going out doing day game for a weekend or something simply shamelessly flirting with every set you come across, that way you will adjust to flirting the same way with all girls regardless of looks.
Author:  Mr. Fickle [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:24 pm ]
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Took me forever to get over this, sometimes when I'm talking to a hb9 or 10 it comes back.

how I fixxed this was I quit looking at her. period. until your used to the idea of conversing with a really hot girl just don't look at her. its counterproductive to your game in some ways but it gives you the mental clarity to actually game so just use it as a crutch until you are immune to the pretty bug
Author:  joe1 [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 2:51 pm ]
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its all in your head .... try this look at the girl you are attracted to as a animal look at her and picture a zebra sitting there ...this sounds strange but it helped me :D
Author:  Jaybot [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:31 pm ]
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Think of them as friends rather than potential lays or whatever, this also helps you feel a lot more natural about negging and teasing. Also helps with conversation, I noticed when I started out I felt the need to make interesting conversation and every word out of my mouth had to inspire everyone within earshot lol (maybe a bit exaggerated) but if you think of them as friends you can just chat about nothing and focus on different elements of seduction without having to think about what you are talking about.
Author:  tipper21 [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 3:56 pm ]
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I still do this too. It's just natural I guess... And pick-up is about defying the natural urge to be an AFC... One thing that helps me is to remember that they have the same self doubts as we do. You might be looking at her and thinking "Wow! Her hair looks AMAZING!! , and at the same time she might be thinking..."I hope he don't notice that I'm having a bad hairday!!" Our perception of self, is never what others see, thats why the negs work so well...
It's ok to be scared, it's just not ok to show it...
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