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Author:  All-American [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 8:20 am ]
Post subject:  Is she worth the effort?

A girl who is in a couple of my classes this semester (I see her twice a week) has captured my interest (even though I somehow overlooked her for two months). I began talking to her about a month ago - a lot of it about the two classes we have together, since that's when we see each other - but I soon realized we click pretty well. I also realized why I'm attracted to her...and looks are only the tip of the iceberg. Sure, she's a HB8, but I always come out of our conversations feeling good. We share some similar interests and I can get her to laugh. She also likes to bust some jokes when I least expect them, and we both have a few laughs.

I did get her number, but when I texted her suggesting we grab coffee or a bite on [day of the week] - keep in mind I'd normally ask in person or call, but both options were unavailable at the time - I got the "I'm busy" sort of reply. She said that she has work and a lot of things to get done before Thanksgiving Break. Yeah...that's not good. :cry: HOWEVER - and this is key - I acted as if nothing had happened. 8) The next time I saw her, I was the same All-American I had been all along, and we didn't miss a beat. We still talked a bit (like usual), I can still get her to laugh (like usual), and she also threw in a couple playful jabs. I also saw some good body language the other day from her, but I can't tell if that was meant to be.

So my question...how should I proceed? Call it quits or persist? After we get back from Thanksgiving, it's a week and a half until "study time" for finals (neither of the classes we share have exams), and then of course there's winter break. Due to these time restrictions and the fact our hometowns are very far away, nothing is happening in 2008. I was thinking that during our final four classes once we're back at school, I suggest to her that we keep in touch during the winter break. If this succeeds, then I'd call her once we're back at school and ask her out.

I know there are a lot of girls out there, but in addition to the sudden lack of parties on campus where more opportunities could bloom, something about this girl has captured my attention. She's attractive, she's well brought up, she can relate to a lot of things, and she seems fun. As for how I've been around her...I made a lot of good decisions, but a few bad ones too. I'm totally "being myself," I do a lot of C+F, I get along with people, and I'm definitely appearing confident when we talk. However, I will sometimes briefly mention something I didn't like about a certain class when we've talked, sometimes I'm a little goofy (think Apollo Creed) and for w/e reason and I make a couple too many broad sports analogies (thank goodness she likes sports a little...her birthday is coming up in a few weeks when we're both home, my favorite football team plays hers that day, that could be trouble lol).

So what do you all think? Am I in business here, or does this one appear dead?

Author:  All-American [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 4:09 pm ]
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As I mentioned earlier, getting the busy sign via text is never a good thing. At the same time, I feel with the few classes we have left and the C+F she'll get on her birthday, she'll feel more confortable. The key I feel is if we both keep in touch over break, if she does then perhaps I have a shot.

Author:  Lucky D [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 6:08 pm ]
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MAn! do I know what you feeling or what!!
you're decribing my situation, so I couldn't help but post something.
What I can say is, in college theres like a million chicks but when u find something thats good, beyond looks, someone that fits you, keep on it!
its hard to find girls like that and YOu'd kill yourself someday for have given up.
Don't give up man! it's like that! When ur two favourite teams play against eachother, why don't you make a bet. ex: "you cook supper & invite me over if my team wins" and something else.

Author:  Johnx [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 7:06 pm ]
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ha dude im in the same situation!. if you read my post " is she interested. in dept story"

you will find some hints from a guy named stealth that worked with me buddy

and well try just texting her over thanksgiving break little dumb thinks, like
how you have a good day today since..
or when your teams play..
be like " have a wonderful day today, and goodluck because your going to need it"

stuff like that..
little things make them wonder alot about a guy man..
i can speak for other ppl
but when it comes to me and some girls i blank and i dont know how to work. lol
but hope this works!


-john

Author:  Reo [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 7:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is she worth the effort?

Quote:
So my question...how should I proceed? Call it quits or persist?
I can't for the life of me figure out how you quit something that never started? I mean you never actually let the girl you're interested sexually or romantically. A Guy Friend can converse & laugh with a female and have it make no difference in that females perception of him.
Quote:
I'm totally "being myself," I do a lot of C+F, I get along with people, and I'm definitely appearing confident when we talk.
You can be C+F and still lack confidence if you were
truly confident wouldn't care if this girl rejected you or not and you'd stop delaying your true intentions of what you really want.

Ask yourself this question if she hooked up with some other guy tomorrow gave him a BJ had sex and whatnot how you would you feel? knowing you missed a perfect opportunity with this girl because your fumbling around and wasting time "Gaming" her and not letting it be know you want to break her off

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