This is the first thread I've begun here. I bunched a few short topics together and would be interested in the responses:
1.) For the most part, I'm outgoing, enthusiastic (but not overly so), and I'm willing to have a conversation. I ride on momentum...if things are going well, I'm pretty smooth. If things begin doing downhill, then even if I'm doing things right, I'm not getting any results. As you can see, my problem is, after a fun and engaging conversation with a girl, I'm unable to jumpstart it. At parties, I number-close. In classes, I'll either see her the next time or I'll number-close anyway. Regardless, the next time I talk to said girl, it's all gone. I'll act the same way I did the previous time, but she couldn't care less. Last weekend, I got a girl's number at a party. I texted her a few days later just to say hey what's up...nothing. So my question is, how do I sustain the momentum with girls?
2.) My second topic here...I seem to be the target for when girls get mad at things. This has notably happened a few times...in high school, a friend of mine called a girl and basically tried to piss her off...and I got all the wrath for it (even though I wasn't involved)! Another time this past summer, a group of us were being a little loud at a party when a girl I knew well was trying to sleep (we were intoxicated). We all felt a little bad about it, but the girl told my friends she hopes to hang out with them again and continues talking with them. Meanwhile, she EXPLODES on me, even though I'm the link between her and my friends (plus she's still holding a grudge)! This year at college, girls assume the worst in me even if they don't know me too well. An example is that girls may expect me to be a loose cannon or flake on them; I get at-most frustrated and I keep that in check, while I never ever miss an appointment. So my question is: How did I become girls' whipping boy? One possible answer is that I've always been blunt; I don't start games and I don't beat around the bush; I tell it as it is. If I have a point to make, I will let it be known. Also, I have a backbone and no one will be taking advantage of me like they used to; if they try, I'll let them know about it, even if I am a little stern (it doesn't get tolerated).
3.) Finally, I've been debating on this one...is getting one (1) date with a girl really that tough? I work out consistently and feel I'm pretty decent-looking, do some good extra-cirriculars, I'm engaging and friendly towards people (only get mad if someone disrespects me), I have a sense of humor, my body language portrays confidence, and I speak well. On the "con" side, I sometimes go at 100mph, I'm not the quickest person with kino (although I do use some), and I oddly slip a little sports analogy into conversation somewhat often. The point is, I feel I'm a better "catch" than a lot of the guys out there, but no girl will spend even 45 minutes with me at a coffee shop or w/e, and I've definitely made some attempts. Even getting a girl just to hang out with me in general proves unsuccessful! I guess you could say I'm frustrated, but something simply doesn't seem right, especially when lifeless guys or ones who don't take care of themselves at all are constantly having atleast some sort of success.
That's a bit longer than I would have liked, but I guess you can say I started out with a bang!
