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| Author: | Stems [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 4:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Avoiding DLVs: Rich v Poor, City v Country |
i've started seeing this girl HB8.5, her parents are wealthy and she lives in a very nice house in the richer part of town, in a large city. I am a fulltime student, who lives with with my brother and my single parent mother, in a much older smaller average house. we live in a remote small country community. We've only had 3 dates and each time i've driven an hour to her place or met her in the city. I dont mind doing this cos there is a lot more stuff to do, more clubs, bars, cinemas etc. But at somepoint in time i want to invite her over my house. My problem is she might freak out a bit and think 'omg, where does this guy live!?'. This combined with the fact its a much older, smaller, less wealthy house could be a severe DLV. If she turned her nose up at how 'poor' my house is, i'd get rid of her. But the actual geographic location of the town i live in, i agree is unimpressive because its basically the middle of nowwhere... it also might appear like im inviting her over for sex, given there is not much else to do around here. There a lot of great beaches around here so i thought about using that or i thought about saying we could cook dinner at my place but that is deep sorta shit. otherwise i've thought about waiting until she is really into me and then it probably wouldnt matter where i lived... at some point the issue is gonna cross her mind though how would u guys go about inviting her over and not having her dwell on the fact i live an hour away from her, in a mediocre house, out in the 'sticks' in the middle of nowwhere? |
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| Author: | Plethora [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 4:09 am ] |
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This has very little to do with your house, and a hell of a lot more to do with your frame of mind. If your frame dictates to her that your house is the shit and it is in such a great neighborhood and you love it, then she will subconsciously agree. Say how much you love being so close to the beach or whatever and how the peacefulness of being away from the city is comforting, etc... If you are the dominant one in the relationship (done by not asking, giving orders, posture, and always leading) then your frame will be perceived as stronger and she will agree with your frame. |
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| Author: | Stems [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 4:24 am ] |
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wow... thats fucking brilliant. in one small simple post you've completely changed my look on things... i think i severely under estimate the value of frame control and inner gamer stuff... |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 4:43 am ] |
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Why are you so worried about this? Yes there is a chance she'll go wtf on you. But she has gone out with you 3 times already. If she wasn't interested in you, she would never had gone out. |
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| Author: | Plethora [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 6:15 am ] |
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Quote: wow... thats fucking brilliant.
Indeed, very very powerful.in one small simple post you've completely changed my look on things... i think i severely under estimate the value of frame control and inner gamer stuff... If you are 'the man' and show power and dominance over the relationship (but not dominating), then she will follow. If you are a strong leader then any concept that you introduce as right, which can be anything from threesomes to the Holocaust, people will follow. |
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| Author: | Stems [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 6:37 am ] |
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Yeah i guess i was just focusing on the negative stuff that could happen and not the fact that she was seeing me in the first place... its funny cos most of the dates she has pushed for to, guess i was just worried my progress would come to a crashing halt... whats some good stuff to read for inner game? appreciate your help |
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| Author: | Plethora [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 6:52 am ] |
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whats some good stuff to read for inner game?
Most of what I know I have taken small pieces from many, many different sources. I recommend you read 'Introducing NLP' as it is truly fascinating. I also downloaded a torrent called 'David Deangelo, interview with dating gurus' and have found that to be excellent. There are probably 40 hours with David D discussing techniques and mindsets with 30-40 of the best pickup artists/gurus in the world. The best thing about it is that the information is so diverse and yet so intriguing. If one of the gurus seems really fascinating to you then you can look into his repertoire for more.I recommend people like Carlos Xuma and Hypnotica for inner game as they have made it their specialty. |
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