Background
I am 36
The chick is 30
She has had some very bad relationships.... her ex from a long time ago is a convicted murderer and she has issues about him
She opened up emotionally to her last boyfriend a lot.... and he dumped her
I am the first person she has had sex with for a year
She sounds like a nutcase... but she is actually tops ... and very sexy ... and wants kids (so do I)...
The Situation
6 months ago I moved into the house next door. I had just read the game ... and I gamed her brilliantly. We got together and started having regular sex etc... and she thinks i am amazing. She knows I am caring etc... but also I have shown "alpha traits"... i have won over her friends, i am the leader of the pack at the bar at which we drink.
Then I went to india for a month.
I come back and i am in the "friend zone"..... "I am not ready for a relationship... I want to be friends"
Shit
I have told her that i am not interested in being friends... I want more.
She keeps giving me great vibes... and positive feedback. We hugged the other night ... and it was more then a "friends" hug.... it got kind of sexual... but she broke it off and said "this is feeling too good.
We went swimming in a river yesterday... she wouldnt kiss me after.
She wants to cook me dinner this thursday.. indian food.
I bought her some presents in india ... some very nice stuff that i have not yet given to her ... but i wonder if I would be smothering her if I gave them to her. She knows about the presents. Last week i told her i am ok being friends... and that i still want to give her the presents cause i got them for her. One of the presents is a real heart wrencher... it is some herbal oil from a 900 year old temple dedicated to female reproductive health and wellbeing (yes she has had ovary probs int he past too that are now fixed). I stepped into a group of praying indian ladies and got some oil and smudged it onto a coin. I also brougt back some chocolate from the top of an indian mountain (she loves chocolate) as well some beautiful material (she loves making her own cloths).
What do I do
Do I give her the presents... or not give her the presents?
Do i cancel the dinner and say that if we are over then i need some space to move on?
Do I do the dinner... give her the presents... then ask her not to contact me for a while because i need space?
Do I keep on being her friend while quietly letting her know that I want more?
Do I chase other women and make her jealous?
Please don't just be flippant in your responses. I want real advice from guys that have been through numerous relationships.
I would really like to turn this situation around.
