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Author:  laidbacklover [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 2:04 am ]
Post subject:  Getting a girl that knows I have a 'girlfriend'
This HB 8.5 added me randomly on a friend network site saying i was cute ect...
so started msging back and forth, I didn't add her initially. Anyways few days later this girl I am seeing made me change my status to "in a relationship with her", and this HB 8.5 was asking me to add her, thus exposing my profile to her. I created a personal friend list for the HB 8.5 to remove the relationship detail and then I added her. Anyway so I asked her for her number and she responded saying she didnt think my gf would be happy for her to give it to me and that email is the best she can do. Dunno how she worked it out maybe through some photos

How do I go about keeping this HB around, ie being friends with her. I know since i'm kinda with this other girl already I can push things forward beyond friendship.

Was thinking I reply saying, "hey thats cool if u dont wanna be friends :( maybe ill see ya around" ect or maybe just keep chatting to her online and see where that goes?

Any advice?
Author:  kasabi [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 2:27 am ]
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No no . . .

"Not being friends" is totally uncool.

Where you want to go with this is, "I think you're really cool . . . Let's just be friends. . . We can just hang out . . ."

Now you don't really have to say this. You can ACT this way. Just drop her alerts by emailing her total "under the radar" notes. It doesn't matter how people try to define relationships. You get a vagina and a penis in one comfortable, safe, private setting and sex is a possibility so don't overcomplicate it for now.

My question to you is . . . if you're not so happy with your girl, why not be a man about it and cut her loose first? Let the insecure sex play the "insecure game".
Author:  laidbacklover [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 2:30 am ]
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The girl i'm with is another massive issue entirely i wont go there now.

But anyway could I say "woah slow down I just asked for your number to be friends ect..."

Also the possibility of a threesome could exist if i play things right
Author:  Shatter [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:19 am ]
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i dont know the whole situation, but if your given the opportunity....dont cheat. dont be an ass

i have done it, and my gf did it back just out of spite and im still getting over it

good luck :D
Author:  Bonita [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:43 am ]
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I don't want to act like I am preaching here because we are all far from innocent...but it is clear that your intentions to keep her around are far more than just friendly. Even if you don't act on it, you are keeping her there "just in case." Think how you would feel if your girlfriend did this to you? If you honestly didn't care, then go ahead and procede but if the thought troubles you some then maybe you should check your actions. True, maybe she would make a good friend, but it really seems like she is a backup plan or even a side-thing for you. Women view emotionally cheating worse than physical cheating. But men see physical cheating worse than emotional cheating.

PUA is about becoming a high class male...if you are really into this new girl, that is fine...but you have to be honest with your girlfriend. High class men do not cheat and do not disrespect women by going behind their backs--that displays low value
Author:  kasabi [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 4:50 am ]
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Women view emotionally cheating worse than physical cheating. But men see physical cheating worse than emotional cheating.
Sorry to sidetrack the thread:

Interestingly . . . I've always thought that emotional cheating was far worse. I just don't view the "in out, in out exercise" as anything more than eh . . an exercise. I mean . . . I like it . . . but give me a choice to snowboard with a cool girl, scuba dive with a cool girl, play golf, fish, whatever and really . . . I think the same type of emotional chemicals flow through me as if we were having sex. I suppose this was different when I was 18.

Interestingly #2. . . An amazingly cool girl I knew told me that she thought "physical cheating" was far worse. I was like, "No way . . ."

Her explanation was that there's no way to control your emotions. If you fall in or out of love with somebody . . . what do you do? How do you tell yourself, "Fall out of love now!". On the other hand, she felt that it hardly takes any effort to keep your pants on. It takes effort to take your pants off right?
Author:  Eros-SIS [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 11:18 am ]
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Women respect honesty.

If you can't be honest with women atleast be honest with yourself.

If you have girlfriend and want to sleep around you are only damaging your own integrity by living a lie.

Either break it off with current girl and sleep with as many women as you like or sacrifice your time to stay in your seemingly unsastisfying relationship and supress your urges.
Author:  gabzlora [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:47 pm ]
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maybe that HB is a friend of your GF and they are testing you.. how did she know you had a gf if it wasnt on your status?
Author:  TheLibra [ Sat Nov 15, 2008 5:30 am ]
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Quote:

But anyway could I say "woah slow down I just asked for your number to be friends ect..."


Good one, good one. yea i would have def said somthing like this. Like say " Conceited alittle bit aye, i just wanted to be friends" and kinda of neg her for being cocky. U could play that into a running neg for the night. Like if she were to bump into you or make any incidental kino be like" Gah, i thought i told you just friends" in a flirty tone. Thats what i've done in the situations :)
Author:  skypirate35 [ Sat Nov 15, 2008 1:43 pm ]
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her answer betrayed her morals on the subject. the only way you can go is verbally stick her in the friendzone before she does it. Once you're in hers it'll be a lot harder to get out off. She's implied it but hasnt said it and because she hasnt said it, you can neg her over what you know she's thinking because as yet she doesnt know what your intentions are, even if she thinks she does and a neg ought to disarm her of those thoughts.

however, I'm personally of the opinion if you want to sleep around on the side, you make sure you're in an honest open relationship not a closed one. That way when this happens, you can in all honesty say it's fine and telling it like it is with conviction, is much more readily accepted. And you can say you understand her position and put her in the friendzone and at the same time work on overcoming her morals with attraction since feelings/attraction cause people to question their own morals. In this way you dhv by being honest and enlightened.
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