go with my favorite method...the all or nothing method. Obviously you don't want to be her friend, you want a relationship with her.

What I would do is in a month or so give her a call and pretend like nothing ever happened. You are just friends etc and maybe say something like "I need to get new shoes, or I want to go shopping and update my wardrobe, but I need a females opinion want to meet at the mall and help me out."

Very non threatening sounds very friendish, and your also saying you need a female opinion which to me means your buying these clothes for other women to see you in. While out with her you can flirt with retail girls etc and just be fun. She will see how much fun it is to be with you. When all is said and done with that just thank her for coming out.

Don't ask, don't even hint that you still might like her. Leave it in her court. If you come off as needy again its all over. But this gives you one last chance to show her how awesome you are. Don't call her again after this meeting. Everything is in her court. Just hope she calls you or texts you and says she had fun. And if she does you can say yeh it was. But don't say you should do it again sometime, once again it would sound needy. Just say yeah it was fun thanks for the help. She will hopefully see that youve moved on to other girls, and women always want what they cannot have.


I have been in a similar situation with a girl for over and year, and while I don't have One-itis stuff still goes on that reminds me of her, but I know I cannot initiate anything it has to be her doing even after we have both had boyfriends and girlfriends in between. Good luck.

Flicking through this forum last night, I happened upon this quote by DeAngelo:

“If you act like she is too important, she’ll treat you like your not important”

Straight away I knew I blew it. I met this chick who was really into me a few weeks ago, and we'd spent several consecutive weekends together. As we became more intense and affectionate, I found myself falling for her. Everytime I saw her face I lost all discipline. I broke all the rules. I told her I cared about her. I let her think that she was too important to me. And suddenly, she's going cool. Liking me less and less, nowhere near as passionate and intense as she first was. And now, as De Angelo says, she's treating me like I'm not important. She is not intitiating any texts or phone calls. She wants us to try being friends and 'getting to know each other', the 'seeing what happens'. And I'm now in a position where I can't initiate any calls/texts/meetings otherwise I'll lose all power. I blew it. As soon as I started caring about the girl, I lost her. She has been drifting away from me ever since

And the question is, to all you PUAs out there: How do I turn it around? What the hell do I do to get her back? Have I blown it, is it too late?? I met another hot girl tonight and we spent the evening together, making out, but I the whole time I was depressed, thinking about this chick. Checking my phone every five minutes. What do I do? Phone her? Forget her? What??? Help!