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Author:  paladien [ Tue Oct 28, 2008 11:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Taking girlfriend for granted, bad idea ?
Hi, im sorry i need your help

I am taking my girlfriend for granted, I m afraid she will break up with me

after a time of not being there for my girlfriend I showed her this weekend i really did love her and she loved me too. the whole weekend was great
i usually dont see her trough out the week

but this afternoon i got a text from her and i didnt reply to it, like i dont give a fuck.
I was just not in the mood to send anything and then i forgot it

She was really hoping that i would send her something back, which i did not
which let her in the cold, she thinks now the weekend didnt mean as much to me as it meant to her. which leads to her not giving a fuck about it either

and seriously, you hear this a lot. when a guy takes his girl for granted the girl usually breaks up

what should i do
Author:  Shatter [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 12:03 am ]
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well i wont tell you what to do, but i will tell you my story.

i had a gf for about 2 months, then i made your mistake. i no longer gave a fuck and kinda abused how much she cared for me. i ended up breaking up with her for about 2 weeks ago, then i realized how much i cared for her and started tryin to get her back. well turns out one of my really good friends had ran to her and comforted her and told her everything she wanted to hear when she was down. so now they were talking behind my back. well this really tore me up and trust me it sucked.... the pain and betrayal was intense.

well by sheer luck i got her back and now me and her are workin things out, but the moral of the story is always tell her how much she means to you, even if it means going out of your way (and never trust certain guys). i didnt miss her till she was gone, and now im so glad to have her back....

oh yea, and if you still sarge just for fun, never k close!!!!!!!! people take that kinda stuff seriously... :D
Author:  paladien [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 12:17 am ]
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hahahaha :D
i wont k close, im careful

hahahah :D
your post really makes me smile, I recognize your situation

I try to keep my pua friends separated from my girl tho that comforting might be anyone I am afraid someone I dont know will do it without me knowing it.

I really dunno how to deal with this situation of mine tho, i think im gonna text her tomorrow

oh maybe im just gonna break up first..? anyone got a better idea ?
Author:  Palet [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 12:18 am ]
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Break up with her. Obviously you don't care that much about her, cause if you did you would respond to her text.

If you don't break up with her you are probably going to continue taking her for granted anyway, and then she is going to break up with you. So either start caring about her more and showing it, or just get it over with and end it, because someone will care more about her than you apparently.

I don't say that to be a jerk, I say that as what I think the truth is.
Author:  SiNfUl [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 2:48 pm ]
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Personally, I don't think you are taking her for granted, I think you are 'bored'. The relationship has gotten so stale, that you don't even care about responding to a text message. I would find ways to make things interesting again, the way it was when you first started, or just move on.
Author:  Xseducer [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 10:30 pm ]
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Hey,
This sounds really AFCish. I don't judge though :). Okay, If you want to keep the girl just let her know you have a life and you are distracted. But this just sounds really needy. There is no such thing as taking a girl for granted. There are billions of girls out there. They can be replaced easy enough. But I say, THINK FUN, NOT OUTCOME. If your not having fun, change something.

Focus on a good time, not just pleasing one girl. Have fun your self and relax alittle. She won't leave you, and if she doesn. You learn, you move on, you have fun with other, cooler chicks.
-X
Author:  LatinLover101 [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 1:45 am ]
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Make up your mind and decide for yourself if you still want/need her in your life. If this is a girl you love and want to be a part of your future, DON'T fuck up because you will regret it. Don't do shit behind her back because you think it's cool, and don't take her for granted. It does seem like you are bored so I'd recommend just letting her go. If she's not envoking the same feelings she once did, just dump her. If you want to keep the game up, sure you can still use her for sex but I don't really see anything good from that. If you have a girl, it shouldn't be too hard to find another one.
Author:  Chief [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 1:33 pm ]
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I don't think you should take ANYTHING in life for granted.
Author:  mPUA Savior [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 10:09 pm ]
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coolidge effect.......thats what it sounds like atleast everyone gets sit of everyone at some point in time, really to save this relationship it depends on what you do you did good by making up for your coolidge effect ways over the weekend
but then you didnt care and didnt send a text back as you know, so its up to you really if you care find your own personal way to save it.....and well if it really is coolidge effect and you dont feel as you once did then move on
Author:  paladien [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 11:08 pm ]
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thanx, its okay now :)
im becoming a lil afc now in the relationship texting her how much i like her and responding to everything real honest.
but hey :) if she fucks up, she fucks up.

another thing tho :s
i dont see her as much throughout the week as i said

i've been sarging lately and i found out that GIRLS ARE STUPID !
omg, seriously. for some reason :? one set i fuck up, the other I leave in glory
I really dont get it, i am still the same boy

how come when i leave one set of like 4/5 women they ask MY number giving me ioi s and stuff telling me i can call them whenever i need them ;)

then another set, 1 hour later 2 girls goes like girls, what do you think is the best club out here
blablalbalablalablab chat for like 10 minutes
then the friend of who im talking to (the target) says to the target come on girl, lets go says one girl to the other and they leave like "they had to go"

how come :? i used exactly the same openers

I really dont get it. it must have been subconscious or something but i really dont get it. i think i seemed too low value, or i was not interesting enough. how to fix this
I even showed interest in her job like i really meant it (she works at the nightclub which is quite cool tho)

hope you guys can help me out. i think im gonna make a post about this :)
Author:  JohnChap [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 11:34 pm ]
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I know exactly what you mean. It's tough, I know. I've been there with a few women who I've seduced into falling in love with me. What happens is we men get tire after a while. We don't mean to; We don't get the same feeling we did in the beginning of the fling ... we men like the pursue. We like to win the woman's affections, but after we have accomplished this; once we have her; once we have won her; once we have overcome her; we become bored. We get bored. It becomes routine and we men were not built for routine. We we're made to overcome obstacles and conquer.

They, on the other hand, fall even deeper in love. A woman spends 90% of the time thinking about her man, whereas, a man only spends 10%, if that ...

This is critical becuase, YES, we can lose them; we can lose the woman who has been good to us. And believe me when I tell you this, you will pay for it.

You will pay for it with a dry-spell. That is, you'll spend the next several months, if not, years, ALONE.

We don't want this to happen. Absolutely NOT!!! We are better off allowing this operate conditioning (the consequence of losing someone amazing and potentially spending the next several months ALONE) take it's course; we're better off fearing such a consequence and give her the time she demands; she desires; she loves! We are better off giving her what she wants.

How?

Take a step back. YOU need space. You're not appreciating her like you used to. She is TOO available. But it's not your fault. We are all like this; all us men, that is. Women are entirely different creatures so don't confuse what she wants with what YOU want. You'll almost always get it wrong if you do.

By taking a step back, you are allowing yourself; you are allowing your mind to MISS her. Once this void (you not having what she has and can give you: Love, sex, affection, company etc) begins to form, you'll begin to appreciate her again. This is what you want. By creating this space, you'll fuel your fire for her again...not like you had it in the beginning but real close! We begin to appreciate that which we don't have any longer.

So before this amazing and beautiful creature leaves you, I suggest you "leave" her first by disappearing for one week exactly. That will begin the process. Soon, you'll WANT; DESIRE; YEARN for her once again. This desire will DRIVE all your actions thereafter. You're actions will give you the outcome that's in your best interest ...remaining with this exceptional creature you call your girlfriend.
Author:  mPUA Savior [ Fri Oct 31, 2008 6:57 pm ]
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pick-up doesnt work with every woman.....thats why
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