Hiya!
So, here's the deal:
Every year I work abroad the whole summer. Two years ago I met this really nice girl who worked with me for a couple of weeks. Sadly, she had a BF at that time (LTR). I was kinda infatuated with her, AFC style being nice and all but we also had a lot of fun and I'm pretty sure she dug me. However, I needed to go home and that was that.
Last summer however, she was there again. And I started to like her again. A lot. Since I already knew her from last year I was way more confident around her. And I had the benefit of knowing a (tiny) bit more of the theory of attraction. We spent a whole lot amount of time together, although she still had the same BF as last year.
I got her to jump in the sea with me in the middle of the night and crash at our workplace after a night of clubbing when we had to work the next morning for example. We even walked on the beach together and stuff...
I was still too much of a Nice Guy to actually try something like kissing her then (I didn't want to be that guy, not when she still had a BF), but I still tried my game on her in the hope that she would take the initiative. I got very confused... Did I really see some IOI's there, or did I enter the Dreaded Zone? Isn't it funny how actually liking a girl you are trying to hit on can cloud your judgment that much... *sigh*
Nothing happened between us during my stay there. We stayed in contact (email, text messages) though, and after 2 weeks she mailed me that she split up with her BF (you were seeing the guy for 4 fucking years and you couldn't have done that 3 weeks earlier?!). I'd still like to think that I played a part in that though.
Anyway, after some banter over the email I was like, you should come over to Holland. And she said yes. And she booked her flight. And now she's going to stay at my place for 3 nights. And this time I *have* to make a move.
Now, after this TL;DR post (you know, it actually feels good to write this shit down!), here are some issues I need to consider:
* She knows I liked her, but we haven't really talked about that.
* We haven't seen each other for 3 months. I reckon that I need to reframe from any "friend" frame there still might be to a "I like you" frame
* Use any opportunity I get from now on practicing how to attract women in general, just to be 'in shape' when she gets here.
* Make sure I take it easy and don't scare her when she arrives. Any tips on how to use email/text messages to 'prepare' her a bit?
* Make sure I use Kino at the earliest moment when appropriate or lay off Kino to gauge her reaction?
* Start off at the same level of flirting as when I left Scotland or tone it down a notch (because she might not expect that).
So, any pointers or advice would be greatly appreciated!
-McFly