Recently I made the revelation that I am obsessed with my co-worker(the one who pulled her sweater closed). She is a HB 7.5-8, but that's not the reason I'm so into her(but certainly part of). She's very smart and has a great many of the same interests that I do(which I will classify as rare). Here's the history:
She started working at my company last May. We're pretty big, with somewhere approaching 200 employees. I was immediately taken by her looks, but she works in a different part of the building, so I had a hard time justifying "visiting" her area just to talk to her. However, a couple of weeks ago I finally came up with a reason and started some small talk--learned we have a lot of interests in common, made her smile and kept her interest. I asked her if she wanted to have lunch with me and she said sure. This was Friday, we picked Wednesday for lunch.
Over the weekend, she had a change of heart, so Monday morning I was "greeted" with an e-mail that said she would rather not have lunch with me, and I learned it was because she was seeing someone else that we work with (in her area, of course--let's call him "B."). I know the guy and I like him, but we're not really friends. She's been seeing him for at least 3 months, and I'm kicking myself for not making my approach way back then or before.
Anyway, one of the reasons(The main reason) I'm on the PUA forums is because I realized I had no clue how to handle this situation. I feel like she must have had interest in me, but maybe feels devoted to the relationship she's been developing with "B" and doesn't want to jeopardize that. I talked with her about the situation briefly (this is interesting to me--she avoided mentioning "B" by name or talking about "B" at all--why? I'd like to think it's because she hasn't fully connected with him yet, but I fear that she thinks it is none of my business so she won't share that info with me)
Anyway, I accepted her reason and returned to my area, dejected. I wallowed in a bit of self-pity and deliberately avoided talking to her for a few days.
Then I decided I was not done. I feel like she is one of a kind, so I feel like I can't just give up and let her go. I went back over and talked with her, made even more connections between us ( I definitely felt I was DHV) and as a result I felt better. That night, I found my way to the PUA site and started reading up, realized that I had actually used C&F and a neg on her successfully before I even knew the terms!
So, at this point I'm ready for any and all advice. Ultimately, I'd really like to work toward developing a serious relationship with her. Please, give me your opinions and suggestions for how I might proceed from here.
Thanks,
-Klats