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Had the girl in my bed but didint close the deal!
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Author:  dark one [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 12:14 am ]
Post subject:  Had the girl in my bed but didint close the deal!

Alright so I picked a chick up at the club/bar, we went back to my place and talked for about 10 mins.....I asked her If she has seen Ali and then when she said no I told her to come and watch it in my room....we wer cuddled up so I said "you want to kiss me dont you?" she said "I dont know" with a smile, and then we started making out....she jumped on me and before I knew it we wer fooling around. Then I pulled out a condom and she said "I cant do this....Im sorry Iv never done this before." so I stoped and held her til she fell asleep.

Horrible! did I not build enouph comfort! I got the attraction but not the comfort? We havent talked since.

Author:  Omega [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 12:32 am ]
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As far as im concerned you did what is right. You dont want to force a girl to have sex.

But I also dont know the girl or the situation. She could have been one of those girls who says she "never does this" but than you find out the next day shes f-ed everyone in town.

From the little you told me. It sounds like a you met a nice girl who kinda got wrapped up in your game and when she saw you pull out the condom she got slapped back into reality about what she was about to do. And she didnt like it.

If you have a girl like that dont pull out a condom unless she askes if you have one. Just concentrate on turining her on and getting her to the point where all she wants is for you to have sex and than shell ask. Or if you feel like its getting to point and she is to shy-- ask her in nice, no pressure way.

Author:  hansolo86 [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 10:25 am ]
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Yeah dude, I think you did well, obviously she wanted to make out with you which is good, you must have gained attraction and good comfort. About the sex, I don't think that was you're fault at all, she's just not ready!

Give her time! =)

Author:  Solomon II [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 10:44 am ]
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If she meant that she hadn't had casual sex before, it was a simple case of LMR and you gave in too easily. If she was a virgin, you definately made the right move - respect for that.

Author:  Hatman [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 5:03 pm ]
Post subject:  my similar experience

maybe if u get her back to urs again start making out with her and turning her on and then suddenly stop. tell her that u don't want to continue as u worry that ur pressurising her and u don't want to do this to her. wait for a couple of minutes and then start again making sure its u that pulls away and then tell ur self off for pushing her again. get her to feel like that u really resepect her but she makes u so horny u just cant help ur self. tell her what she does is amazing cos if its confidence thats holding her back this may help. eventually after about 3 times finally try it on slowly without catching her eye as that may bring make her start thinking again.

this same thing happened to me once with someone who had only slept with 1 guy. i had to wait untill about 3am but it was worth it. I didn't actually plan any of the above but thats how it worked out and i ended up getting laid a couple of nights that week before she flew back to the usa to go home.

i can only go on my own experience as im not really a pua but i think this approach ment that everyone was happy

Author:  dark one [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 8:30 am ]
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Nice boys....well we havent talked since because I think she feels im a "player" now lol She was hot! but w.e you live you learn....I have another girl I met last night but she has a bf. Super hot asian girl and she is one of the coolest girls I have ever met!

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