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| Author: | Rob123 [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 8:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | She cancelled a date (need your thoughts) |
I just want an opinion on this. Today was supposed to be my third date with a girl. On the second date I was getting tons of IOI's and tried to kiss close but kind of screwed up. I used the "I'm trying so hard not to kiss you" line and she started blushing and told me that I really do say what is on my mind. Rather than kissing her, I made the stupid move of telling her that she is blushing and I can tell she wants to kiss me instead of just moving in and kissing her. This lead to some closed body language but soon I recovered and got more IOI's from her again such as blushing, lots of kino, dilated pupils and she even told me that she is interested on AIM when I mentioned at something she remembered later that evening. I saw her once between the date for about a minute as I was rushing to work and could not really talk to her. I later left her a message telling her not to eat as I am taking her out to a restaurant. Today about 3 hours before we meet, I get a text message from her friend saying that she will not be able to meet up tonight. I am not sure where I stand. I am at least happy that she had the courtesy to let me know she can't make it instead of flaking. |
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| Author: | Fair Rose [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 9:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She cancelled a date (need your thoughts) |
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I later left her a message telling her not to eat as I am taking her out to a restaurant.
Why are you dating this girl? I mean canceling is obviously a shit test... but again, why are you dating this girl?
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| Author: | Rob123 [ Fri Sep 19, 2008 2:45 am ] |
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My personality is not someone who goes out to sarge and party and pick up hundreds of women. I work 45 hours a week and attend college full time so frankly I am not interested in going out and partying on the little bit of free time I have. I just ended one LTR and am getting back into the game. I've had 2 coffee dates and we hit it off. I wanted the third date to be a dinner date in order to make my intentions clear that I am not looking for just another friend. If this is a shit test, I want to know how to best approach it. Right now, I just said ok, did not ask any questions and made other arrangements. I have not been flaked on for about 1.5 years so I'm a little taken aback. I am happy to accept any more advice available. |
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| Author: | Fair Rose [ Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:31 pm ] |
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A good response that I can remember David D explained was doing something that would make her never flake again. EVEN if you do want this girl to be your girlfriend, you have to let her know that YOUR time is valuable. "Never accept second class behavior" (DD). And by you saying "OK" that was a minor set back. Next time you get in contact with her (phone, text, in person), make it seem as if you are sort of in a rush...you have places to be. Say nonchalantly (or better yet text) "I gotta pick up a couple of things at the mall later... you can come along." Anything in that nature. Like even the dinner. Instead of ASKING her out to dinnner. You ALREADY are going out to dinner... and if she wants to keep you company, that's cool... but that doesn't change the fact that you still are going to EAT. Let her join you in activites... don't blatantly make them about her. Am I making sense?? |
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