Hi,
My name is Mike and I'm not really looking to become a PUA or anything, sleeping w/ a different girl every night or every week is not something I really want in my life. However, I recently met an awesome girl who I'd be interested in building a LTR with so here's the scenerio.
I first met her on Saturday night, I was having a few people over at my house for a few beers and I called my friend (let's call him K) who ended up bringing a female acquaintance (let's call her M). K is a very close mate of mine and at the time I was under the impression that he was pursuing this girl. Anyway, the night rolls on and people leave and soon it's just K, M, and myself sipping on beers and passing a bowl. We end up having a cool talk, and throughout the night I was pretty funny and engaged her in some deep conversation. As the conversation went along I realized this girl was special, I got the feeling our connection was growing pretty strong. I threw in some negs, made some jokes, even got into some basic kino (fist pounds, high fives, and at the end of the night I made a point to give her a hug).
The next day I talked w/ K and made sure it was cool with him if I pursued this girl, so that night I found her on facebook, and friend requested her. She accepted the next morning (Monday). I was pretty busy that day so I made no further contact (though perhaps I should have). So on Tuesday she posts a generic "hey, what's up" message on my wall, and later on I reply telling her I will give her a call soon. That night I end up chillin with a couple friends and smoking a bit of green, and when I got home I decided to call her. Maybe a bad idea in retrospect as I wasn't in full control of my mind and confidence at the time, but whatever it happened. I talked to her around 11:30ish at night and after some bs small talk I ended up asking her to hang out. I end up tellin her tomorrow at around 7-8pm, and that I'll call her back. Overall the call was ok, I neged her and I made her laugh a bit (though some of the laughs seemed forced, dunno if that's a good or bad sign). Also I didn't really have any real transition from bs convo to asking her out, but whatever she agreed anyway.
So tonight I wait till around 7:20ish and call her. She doesn't pick up, and several minutes after I get a text from her claiming that she "forgot she had some family thing to do tonight, but she'd call me later." This was a pretty terrible sign as when we were talking the night before we talked about how she has a planner (I poked some light fun at that fact). So to me this seems like a very obvious "I wanna get to know u better, but I'm not sure..." So I texted back, "lol cool..... but i gotta ask, what good is a planner if you don't write stuff like this down in it?
" She didn't text anything back.So here are my questions: 1) Is all hope with this girl lost? 2) Is there anything I can do at this point to make a meeting happen? I'm very confident if I could meet this girl once I can build a strong rapport with her. 3) Right now I'm thinking the best thing I can do is nothing, the last time something like this happened I ended up over-reacting and showing the girl massive AFC insecurity to which she replied that I was "clingy" and, well, I'm sure you know what happened. So, am I right, should I just do nothing at this point, or is there something I can do?
Hopefully, someone replies ASAP cuz it would be nice to be armed with some info if/when she does call me back.
Peace,
Mike
