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Author:  eMJay [ Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Loud Clubs - How to approach?
In clubs where the music is very loud, and its basically just a dancing stage I find it very hard to talk to girls, therefore you have to dance to get some sort of connection. Ive read the FAQ on this subject, but couldnt find any info on what you do to get the girls to dance with you.

So, we all know its really easy when you have lots of social proof and for example last time I went out, I brought 2 girls who I was dancing with in the beginning. This lead girls to swirm around just waiting for an opportunity to dance with me. But at some point, my girls had to get going, and the other last girl I had been dancing with had also gone.

I admit that I should have taken atleast one of those girls out of the dancing zone and up to the bar or something. But the last one I really had great KINO with and she was definately into me, but she suddenly went outside without signaling. And I didnt wanna be an AFC and just follow her out.But what is done is done.

So my question is:
- How do you approach girls on the dancefloor? Do you just come up and start dancing with them? Do you ask them to dance or what?
Here are some I already have:

* The Fabulous
When you go up to them and just fix something on there appearance.
If she asks what the hell you are doing, you say: "You look OK now, but I can make you fabulous!"
* The Tongue
When a girl looks at you, and you stick out your tongue at her in a playful way, and smile/laugh. If she also smiles/laughs you signal for her to come over to you and you just do your thing.
Author:  GemNi [ Tue Sep 16, 2008 8:29 pm ]
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This is what I did at a club, and it worked pretty well. You have to find girls dancing with each other for it to work. There is always an abundace of that.

Make eye contact with the girl you want to dance with. Once that happens approach her. Go up to her and say hey, or excuse me, then proceed with the question:

I was talking with my friend and he thinks that you are all dacning together because it is girl time. I have to disagree, I told him the only reason why you are not dancing with any guys, is because they are to afraid to ask you to dance. So which one is it?

I used it this weekend and worked like a charm. The girl told me no one has approached her. I then said, want to dance, she said sure, and I took it from there.....

It's short, sweet, to the point, and can help get you a dance.....
Author:  eMJay [ Wed Sep 17, 2008 7:31 pm ]
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Nice one! Will try that out tomorrow..

Anyone else?
Author:  Bonita [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 12:53 am ]
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I think all a guy has to do is make eye contact, if she smiles as she looks at you then that is an invitation to dance. Don't worry about how long she holds eye contact. Outgoing girls will hold it longer, andshey girls will hold it less, but either way can be an IOI as long as she smiles. Personally, I find it awkward when a guy ASKS me to dance because then you have to worry about which way you are both going to stand from the start. If you get that eye contact/smile just go dance with her.

I wouldnt spend too much time dancing at first. One or two songs tops. I remember many occasions when i am dancing with a guy and he just wont stop maybe out of fear that our connection will die when we stop dancing. Think of the dancing as fore-play to the conversation (or make-out etc...whatever your goal is). If you spend too long dancing, it only builds up the anticipation to the conversation. Not only does it put more pressure on the conversation to be good, but if the convo sucks, then you will prob be more disappointed. So after a song or two, suggest going to get a drink. This will allow you to isolate her from her group as well.
Author:  Smarts [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:40 am ]
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For me, I just go up to a girl and start dancing/grinding with her. Well I dance with the girls that are already dancing with friends or by themselves. I never really go up to a girl sitting there and ask her to dance. If she wants me to dance with her she will be out on the dance floor shaking what her momma gave her : )

I have never had a problem with that approach, but i do protect myself by asking if she have a boyfriend inbetween songs. That way I dont get knocked out when im dancing with her... Yes, I have seen this happed lol.

If you want to be very cautious, yet feel bold here's what you do. Stand with a friend or 2 by the dance floor where girls are dancing. Just hang out a little and look at the girls dancing near you. Most of the time a girl will move a little bit closer to you, while she is dancing and turn her head and look at you. If this happens that is the GO sign to jump on her and grind away!!!

-Smarts
Author:  Bonita [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 5:16 pm ]
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Stand with a friend or 2 by the dance floor where girls are dancing. Just hang out a little and look at the girls dancing near you.
I do have to disagree with you on this. I have seen "those guys" who stand on the outskirts of the dance floor with their buddy just watching the girls dance. Though they tend to be older guys, they kinda creep me out. Maybe you only scope the situation out for a very brief bit, but to me, guys who just stand there watching the girls are creepy.
Author:  kasabi [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 10:27 pm ]
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Haven't you guys heard? "Creepy" is hot! All the metro PUA's are doing it these days. Bonus points if you can manage an open jaw and a constant stream of drool for 2 minutes.
Author:  bigjamiemac [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 1:31 am ]
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I think all a guy has to do is make eye contact, if she smiles as she looks at you then that is an invitation to dance. Don't worry about how long she holds eye contact. Outgoing girls will hold it longer, andshey girls will hold it less, but either way can be an IOI as long as she smiles. Personally, I find it awkward when a guy ASKS me to dance because then you have to worry about which way you are both going to stand from the start. If you get that eye contact/smile just go dance with her.
I have to disagree with that part and it may not always be like this but for me it has happened alot..I have had this situation happen quite a few times.I will be standing somewere and a chic will make eye contact we both smile so I walk up to her and ask her to dance and she shoots me down..I have had some who doesnt shoot me down but the majority have..You have to still open them before asking if they want to dance..

Now everything else you said I really liked thanks for your insite on this situation B...
Author:  Coolcat21 [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 8:39 am ]
Post subject:  Clubs are shit
Change the club for a good jazz or relaxed enviroment. Bro, you dont want HIV clubs are fucking wack
Author:  vitaminc [ Sat Sep 20, 2008 10:07 am ]
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a big problem with the whole idea of approaching a girl who's already dancing is that she only has one thing to go on: your appearance. if you're not decent looking, chances are anything from a HB7+ would shoot you down, even if you're a really good dancer.

i don't go clubbing often but the thing that's worked for me most times was to go clubbing with a few girls and dance with them (usually its myself, wing and 3-4 girls) at least now you have preselection going for you and you're already dancing. make sure you're constantly smiling and if you see someone nearby smiling at you with their bodies facing you a bit, move in! this one has landed me plenty of #s and k-closes without even leaving the dancefloor.

btw - this also works extremely well if you're interested in one of the girls you take with you to go dancing, im not sure whether k-closing the girl you just sarged would be a good idea when you take your target to go dancing though, havent tried that.
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