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Author:  Double J [ Thu Sep 11, 2008 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Boyfriend destroyers
What are some examples of them, and when is it appropriate to use them?

Any and all help will be greatly appreciated.
Author:  bigjamiemac [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 12:49 am ]
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there is alot of bf destryer threads on here if you just look around...as for when should you use them..well if they say i got a boy firend then that would be a good time to use one...
Author:  kata124 [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 2:02 am ]
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The best method for destroying a boyfriend is to ignore the subject completely. If the target says "I have a boyfriend" respond with "That's cute" and IMMEDIATELY resume whatever you were saying before she cut you.

If you can't do the above you probably can't isolate a girl, demonstrate value, and close in any way whatsoever. But w/e best of luck...

Okay, I do have an alternative but if you don't play it right you'll look like a total asshole. I don't recommend pulling this one at school or at a party with friends...

You start by saying "Oh really? Tell me about him."
She answers something. You act kind of disappointed with him but say something like "Oh... that's cool..." you get my drift right?
Next you ask her what else and repeat the above another two times.
So after the third round of "I guess that's okay" or w/e, transition into something like "I'm scared for you because," or "You see, what I don't understand is,"
Then you throw your triple jab (THIS IS THE TOUCHY PART) by highlighting three negative points in what she just said about her BF. Try adding in something at the end like "if this is a deep relationship then you could get into a serious and long mess. do you really want to be with this guy for another 10 years?" If you can do all of that while still looking like the innocent nice guy, you'll lower the BF's value and she will start thinking about whether or not she wants to be with him.

But seriously... I recommend the first solution I posted.
Author:  madals [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 2:23 pm ]
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Quote:
The best method for destroying a boyfriend is to ignore the subject completely. If the target says "I have a boyfriend" respond with "That's cute" and IMMEDIATELY resume whatever you were saying before she cut you.

If you can't do the above you probably can't isolate a girl, demonstrate value, and close in any way whatsoever. But w/e best of luck...

Okay, I do have an alternative but if you don't play it right you'll look like a total asshole. I don't recommend pulling this one at school or at a party with friends...

You start by saying "Oh really? Tell me about him."
She answers something. You act kind of disappointed with him but say something like "Oh... that's cool..." you get my drift right?
Next you ask her what else and repeat the above another two times.
So after the third round of "I guess that's okay" or w/e, transition into something like "I'm scared for you because," or "You see, what I don't understand is,"
Then you throw your triple jab (THIS IS THE TOUCHY PART) by highlighting three negative points in what she just said about her BF. Try adding in something at the end like "if this is a deep relationship then you could get into a serious and long mess. do you really want to be with this guy for another 10 years?" If you can do all of that while still looking like the innocent nice guy, you'll lower the BF's value and she will start thinking about whether or not she wants to be with him.

But seriously... I recommend the first solution I posted.
NO NO NO NO NO!!
Do not point out the BF's flaws. That is a massive mistake. She will always defend him and therefore in her mind renforce why she is with him. You want to tell her things like "wow u to will totally get married or something" "You two are perfect for eachother" etc etc. By making it out he is perfect, she will consider this perfect model in her head and will realise he doesnt shape up to it.

There is more to it, but i am not re-writing stuff already here.
Author:  kata124 [ Mon Sep 15, 2008 12:43 am ]
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Quote:
NO NO NO NO NO!!
Do not point out the BF's flaws. That is a massive mistake. She will always defend him and therefore in her mind renforce why she is with him. You want to tell her things like "wow u to will totally get married or something" "You two are perfect for eachother" etc etc. By making it out he is perfect, she will consider this perfect model in her head and will realise he doesnt shape up to it.

There is more to it, but i am not re-writing stuff already here.
There are basically two methods. Madals is used to the more traditional style of encouraging the girl while I choose to use a more recent system. My way is a lot more risky but more effective if it works out. It really depends on how natural you look. If you make you comments light-hearted on nebulous, she won't be too offended by what you say and actually think about it. I don't know why I'm typing all of this up. Just ignore the "I have a boyfriend" comment.
Author:  Dokstar [ Mon Sep 15, 2008 6:31 am ]
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I like what both of you have said. I think i like the second idea more than the newer method, though i can see the logic behind the approach. I wouldnt feel that i could pull it off properly, which when brought into the situation would result in extra stress. I'm confident enough to at least note that i may be able to pull it off, but with quite a low success rate. Hey, im already miles ahead of where i started.. so thats what counts right now.

still.. excellent posts.
Author:  sagitta_69 [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 10:08 am ]
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NO NO NO NO NO!!
Do not point out the BF's flaws. That is a massive mistake. She will always defend him and therefore in her mind renforce why she is with him. You want to tell her things like "wow u to will totally get married or something" "You two are perfect for eachother" etc etc. By making it out he is perfect, she will consider this perfect model in her head and will realise he doesnt shape up to it.

There is more to it, but i am not re-writing stuff already here.

I've seen this happen before. I listed out several reasons to a girl why her new bf was a jerk and she defended him and even started explaining how sweet and nice he was.
I can't wait to try the reverse psychology angle. My only hesitation about this angle is, what if she is looking for confirmation that she is in the right relationship with the right guy? If she is looking for affirmation then I (and you) can screw myself royally by saying "Wow, he's perfect for you." Next thing you know you'll be getting an invitation to their wedding!
It really sounds like a gamble.
Author:  Double J [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:43 am ]
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This is why I posted this thread. You cant just jump on them as soon as they mention they have a boyfriend and start "attacking his value" because the girl will get defensive about him and reinforce why she likes him. killing your sarge dead.

But if you start kissing his ass she may (as mentioned above) just want confirmation and validation. which you have just given her. killing your sarge dead.

So is there anyway to tell which approach to use so you wont commit suicide?
Author:  vitaminc [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:59 am ]
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i like Mystery's take on it...
you have your own frame. you live your own reality. you dont care whether she has a boyfriend or not, so why bother acknowledging it?

her: "i have a boyfriend"
you: "mkay" and carry on with what you were saying/doing
Author:  madals [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 12:55 pm ]
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I've seen this happen before. I listed out several reasons to a girl why her new bf was a jerk and she defended him and even started explaining how sweet and nice he was.
I can't wait to try the reverse psychology angle. My only hesitation about this angle is, what if she is looking for confirmation that she is in the right relationship with the right guy? If she is looking for affirmation then I (and you) can screw myself royally by saying "Wow, he's perfect for you." Next thing you know you'll be getting an invitation to their wedding!
It really sounds like a gamble.
There is something your missing, BF destroyers only really work if the girl isnt 100% happy with her BF. This means that if you have a loved up couple, unless you bring something rather amazing to the table its not going to affect her.
By pointing out how good he is, you are creating a reality where he made out to be perfect and therefore she will judge him agaisnt that. People naturally compare things/people and everything to the best they know.
If u only ever knew cars as a ford focus, they would the best thing in the world. However, once you discover a lambo for example, a focus seems rather shit.
Now, you cant actually make the BF better, but just exaggerate his good points to a point where she beleives that is what he SHOULD be like. Then, when he isnt that good, it seems worse.

Ideally, you want to get into the position where you are defending him and she is attacking him. That way, u look like the nice friendly guy who was trying to keep her happy and she realises by herself that he is a loser and that your better.

I am no expert on BF destoryers, since i rarely have to do anything conciously. When i do i run this general outline:
Kino
Make her qualify
DHV
(BF comes up)
Defende BF (BF destroyer)
Kino,
DHV
Make her qualify.


That normall works like a charm.

Madals[/quote]
Author:  Mr. Fickle [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 3:54 pm ]
Post subject:  da
or you can just fuck up everything like i did with y oneitis by not responding.

but im not sure why i always have to bring myself into these things.



my natural friend told me that his boyfriend destoryer is: you are everything that other guy is not. for example:

hb:Its a shame my boyfriend isnt very adventerous

me: ohh thats reminds me, I'm going whitewater rafting tomorrow, yah being

adventerous is really important. but its cool that you like him for who he is

(impying she is settling for second best) also place a strong emphesis on whatever problem may come up like it is life for death to be without these specific qualities.

and if you cant find something she doesnt like about him keep talking about him until she spills the proverbial milk.
Author:  Mr. Fickle [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 4:14 pm ]
Post subject:  oh
oh yah dont ignore the fact she has a boyfriend, it only works for mystery with his legendary seduction skillzz, i have tried this hunderds and hundreds of times. it only leads to pain or if nothing else if you try to ignore it keep your expectations low.


oh yah my previously mentioned plan i forgot to mention that it can come bcak to bite your ass, and hard. true story:

Me: what are you drawling?
hb10: oh its just the marines symbol,
Me: really? why are you joining the marines or something?
Hb10: nah my boyfriends in the marines and i just miss him sometimes.
Me; (blindly led to believeing that she didnt like the fact he was in the marines) nah I would never join the marines, i'm a lover not a fighter.
hb10: Well then i guess your just a pussy then, fuck off.


*spank* walks off and dies a lil inside.[/quote]
Author:  Double J [ Sun Sep 21, 2008 11:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: oh
Quote:

oh yah my previously mentioned plan i forgot to mention that it can come bcak to bite your ass, and hard. true story:

Me: what are you drawling?
hb10: oh its just the marines symbol,
Me: really? why are you joining the marines or something?
Hb10: nah my boyfriends in the marines and i just miss him sometimes.
Me; (blindly led to believeing that she didnt like the fact he was in the marines) nah I would never join the marines, i'm a lover not a fighter.
hb10: Well then i guess your just a pussy then, fuck off.


*spank* walks off and dies a lil inside.
[/quote]

:shock: well, that sounds...

Anyway. so from what you guys have said the general rule of thumb is:

1, you can't destroy a BF if there madely in love so dont try
2, you either pick at the boyfriends negateivs if the target seems upset with him in any way.
3, Or you say how great they guy is so she realises he isnt what she want him to be.

Is this right or am I off abit?
Author:  madals [ Mon Sep 22, 2008 9:08 am ]
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1: true
2 & 3 : you do one or the other, if you do both it just wont work unless your very good at it. I personally think tthe making him out to be better will normally work best....

Up to you tho. The problem with pointing out his bad things is that you can easilly look VERY jealous and DLV yourself
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