Granted I haven't given NLP more than just a cursory glance, I agree that with someone who has known you for more than a day, that kind of question would seem out of place. Questions like that are best left to the very early stages, when a persons mental image of you is still pliable, and they are more likely to accept deep philosophical musings as part of you modus operandi, rather than seeing them as out of character and incongruous with the the mental formula they already have of your personality.
The old staples of any mans conversation (where are you from, what do you do, etc.) are still viable in PU, you just have to know where to go with them. For example;
You:Where are you from?
Her: Anaheim, California
You: Really? Whats it like there?
*this is where we decide whether to cut a move, or to continue on this thread*
Her Response A: Its beautiful, I love it. The sunsets are gorgeous and I'm so close to the beach.
Her Response B: I hate it, the smog is awful and the people are assholes
(I'm from around Anaheim, so I happen to know both of those are true, but this will let you know if "Anaheim" is a good conversational place to take her)
For response A, you continue talking with her about Anaheim, California, beautiful sunsets, and beaches. This gives you ample ammunition for conversation.
For response B, meaning she doesn't like Anaheim, you cut the thread and move on to something else maybe making a comment about how you too dislike smog and assholes, especially smoggy assholes. Get her talking about, her and things she likes, occasionally commenting that you like this or that as well, or dislike this that and the other the same as her. This makes her comfortable talking to you, and builds attraction because you both have so much in common (even if you can't swim, Think sunsets are for homos and find assholes funny, she doesn't need to know that).
Basically, if you use one of the old muskets to get conversation going, run with what she gives you, don't just transition the next one, as this seems awkward and pre-programmed. We've all seen it played out in every romantic movies ever written where the guy asks all those questions, runs out of ammo, then throws the gun at here by asking to buy her a drink.
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