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Author:  dieselfuel [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 5:48 am ]
Post subject:  What to do I do with her abusive ex-boyfriend?
So at the beginning of summer, my friend's GF calls me up to tell me that her friend, an HB7 saw me on myspace and thought I was cute. So my friend and his GF arrange a meeting at their place. The understanding was basically that we were going to fuck. The whole hour and a half that I knew her, my friend and his GF were telling me that this girl NEEDED sex. So the four of us were in a bedroom, watching Good Luck Chuck. About 10 minutes into the movie my friend starts mouthing out "Kiss her! Kiss her! No balls NO BALLS!!!"

Me: hey I have an idea (so I moved over and started making out with her)
She said nothing and was just following my lead. It was fun, everytime
Dane Cook was fucking a girl on the movie, I would imitate the position.
She gave me bruises on my neck the size of Texas, bite marks all over my chest, scratches all over my back, etc. Good sex.

So I F'd her a few more times over that weekend. I later come to find out that she had an ex-BF who's a Marine now, who physically abused her and fractured 3 of her ribs (at the worst).

So the drama started here. The ex-bf came over to my friends house one night and was drunk out of his mind threatening to kill my hb7, so I rolled over there and was seriously about to kick his ass. I'm 6'0 160lbs and a boxer of 4 1/2years, damn, I bench press 260 so I'm actually pretty muscular. My hair was pulled up in a ponytail, and my eyebrows are shaved the same way that the Crips (a streegang here in USA) have theirs done. I'm not a Crip but my barber thought it would get me some good fights. He got in my face so I took my shirt off and once he got a good look at me, he found his place in the present social circle pretty quick. The police showed up 40 minutes after he had left, we filed a report and had no problems since.

So I f-closed her about 3 months ago. 2 months ago, she deleted me from myspace, as she had come to the sad realization that I am a player.
I now know that she has gotten back with this abusive ex-boyfriend. I remembered what Mystery once said:
"A true PUA leaves the girl better than how he found her," wise words that I now feel I don't live up to. All the girls (only 6 of them lol) that I have picked up since starting PUA have benefited from me, and they all will admit it... There is always an unspoken, mutual understanding between the girls and myself: I will always be here for you, but I am not who you think I am, or who you want me to be.

Point being I feel like complete and absolute garbage, an utter failure as a PUA after letting her get back with her BF. Is this one-itis? I don't feel it for her but its like I let her down. I didn't make her better than how I found her. Guys, am I blowing this out of proportion? I'm the PUA and I feel like I should be able to handle this.
Author:  feff [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 7:49 am ]
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"I have no intentions of ever being with you again, but I need to tell you this. You deserve better than that prick. You are the only one stopping yourself from getting a better man. You know what needs to be done, and you know how to do it, prolonging it for tomorrow isn't gonna make it any easier. I understand that you have feelings for him, but is this how you want to life your life?"

something along these lines would have been what i would have said to her.
Author:  Hopeless Romantic [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 4:51 pm ]
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I like what Feff said. That basically puts the fault back on her so you don't have to feel guilty. I don't really think you should feel guilty at all. Its not like you physically abused her, or made her go back to the idiot. I agree as to why you feel guilty though. Just remember that in the end its her choice.

I have a girl who I guess could almost be considered a one-itis who's been with this ass for 5 years on and off. He's hit her a few times and stuff. I obviously don't like him and wish she would find someone better. Yet she still goes back to him. I know its not my fault, but I just wish there was something I could do to ease her fear about being on her own, or being afraid that she won't find someone else.

On the upside though, atleast you have a good DHV story. 8)
Author:  dieselfuel [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 6:29 pm ]
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On the upside though, atleast you have a good DHV story. 8)
Hey I never thought of that!

Yeah, I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but I can't help it. She actually re-added me on myspace last night, before I even made this post, but I didn't find out till after this was posted .lol. So thanks for the advice.

Idk, I've been thinking...this probably is a degree of one-itis. But I have to say, I don't feel a GFTOW on this one. ROFL I'm always feeling a GFTOW!!!
Author:  Hopeless Romantic [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 11:10 pm ]
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Idk, I've been thinking...this probably is a degree of one-itis. But I have to say, I don't feel a GFTOW on this one. ROFL I'm always feeling a GFTOW!!!
Haha. I'm not a big fan of GFTOW. But you should take YOURSELF out and have a good time for YOURSELF. Show yourself that you don't need someone else to make you happy. YOU can make YOU happy and there's nothing wrong with that.
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