I would say push/pull. Just because I love it. When you got her number, did you down play it? "I'll call you next time I'm eating cold pizza" or whatever you had been talking about. If you did, that is the perfect thing to open with. The first two texts from you should kinda stick to the subject matter, then you go off to whatever, the good thing about texting is that you can plan your move. Also, don't text her straight back until she is texting you straight back. When you get her reply, have a shower or cook something to eat or go for a walk. I like to leave it about 10 minutes before I reply, and don't apologise for the wait.
Negging in texts is kinda dodgy, unless she already knows that you are a really joking kinda guy, try to steer clear of any big ones. Little ones are ok, see if you can lead them in with a 'haha' or follow them up with a ':p'.
You may want to disqualify yourself from the friend zone as fast as you can. It is a harrowed land, fraught with sorrow. I think the 'not only are you sexy, but you're____' might work well, but after a bit of push pull you can work in sexual connotations if you think they are appropriate, and they will generally consciously want you by then. Instead of the 'not only are you sexy' think, I used 'you're cute and all, but you're not _____' the other night and it worked a charm. She tried to qualify herself to me and I knew I was in.
You'll have to follow it up the next time you see her, as well. Give her a knowing smile or a playful punch and escalate kino a bit. You may want to try the tic tac game or the one where you look at one eye and then the other eye and then slowly drop to her lips as she is talking, and looking at you (and you have sufficient attraction) and then go in for the kiss. That one works really well usually.
But not movies for a first date, you are still building comfort. Try the pool, there is plenty of kino there, and I feel it is a neglected area these days. Tell her you are going to do some laps and she can come (it might be cool to go get a membership card or something that says you go there often, she'll see that and think that there is alot she doesn't know about you). Besides the obvious lavish possibilities, you get to see some TITTAHS.
When you are going for a kiss, or making a pass, DON'T HESITATE. If you are going to be rejected, you can still have backups, there are a few on this site and plenty of people will know them, but if she went to the pool with you, alone, then you are pretty much in. Now she just has to work for her biscuit. SHE works for it, you just guide her to how she works. Got that?
The pool might not be appropriate, maybe a basketball game or even just throwing the frisbee with your dog or kicking a ball. Something that you were going to be doing anyway (or that you can make it seem like you were going to be doing) and preferably make it active so that you can escalate kino and joke around, and also so it can be regulated to about 45 minutes to an hour before you either bounce her back to your house or to an icecream place or whatever is nearby, or say goodbye, heaven forbid.
Good luck dude, and remember, she's just one of the many.
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. By the way, I'm a virgin and have never even "dated" a girl before. Please help! I'm open to all suggestions. Thanks guys.
Wow! Thanks for all the help guys. One more question. Is it a good idea to bring a friend (guy/girl?) on a d2? Also, what are some cool d2 ideas for high school? All I can think of is hs football games, movies, and ice cream