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| Author: | Seraph_20 [ Mon Aug 11, 2008 11:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Creating a tension, stepping up kino and reading the signs |
I'm truly sorry for the length of the post but if you can spare the time to read it and give me a kick in the right direction i wont even hit you back...probably thank you. Heres how the story goes; I got home back from uni and met this hot girl (9) i'd known before at a club. We spoke briefly exchanged what we were doing stories, but I did not hang around. We met occasionly a couple of years ago- my friend was interested in her but somehow she got my number and invited me out a couple of times (just chilled out stuff with a mutual friend sort of thing or if i was around in town). Looking back i think she might of had the hots for me. But my friend liked her so i never went there and tbh i dont think i picked up on the signs and i've never been very good at picking up subtle signs from girls. Anyway speaking to her she was with a guy friend at the club and made it clear to me they were not an item. That made me think well maybe thats a bit of a IOI from her. I rang her up a few days later and made a brief to the point phone call about meeting up the next day for a drink in the afternoon- I made out i was busy during the morning and the evening. (Starting to learn some PUA). Now the girl is hot and she knows it. She is relaxed and confident and has a bit of a bitch shield and a half. She is a bit of a no bullshit kind of person,quite determined and i reckon she has a fiestyness to her. Anyway today was a good day for me. I held my ground, stood firm was confident and relaxed. I teased her and we had a few playful battles with insults-I got in there that she was like a preschool kid again, throwing rocks at the boys she likes (thank you pick-up-artist-forum).I made her laugh and came across to her as if we were on the same wave length etc. taking the words right out of her mouth so to speak. I told her that i needed to bake a cake for this girl i made a bet with (which was bullshit) but she wanted to help so we went and bought a cook book. We had been talking about being slim and i noticed a "Get slim with Sex" book that i showed her (pathetic attempt to create some sexual tension?). That has left an opening for me to get her to come round to my place to make the cake. I did manage to slap her arse with the book when she was giving me cheek which got a good reaction. We got some sushi, things carrying on the same and went our seperate ways saying i'd ring her if i needed help with the cake which she said "yeah do that"(we hugged when we met and hugged saying goodbye). On the bus home i sent her a txt saying "I've now got fishy fingers! And its ur fault!", (perhaps too subtle?) Anyway i got a response "Haha one of the perils of sushi! X" so basicly as if she didnt pick up on the enuendo. So in general i stayed in control and made attempts at creating some tension and a little bit of kino. But i am well know around where i live for being a nice guy by guys and girls and i reckon because I knew her before and things were very much acquaintances i'm not sure if i'm in the friend zone our not. I reckon im gonna try to invite her round to help me with this cake but i live a couple of bus rides away so might need something more than baking to get her over. Talking, evoking, feelings and showing value are things that im good at with girls -classic ljbf material unfortunatly. Im weak at casual kino and stepping things up that way and reading signals girls are giving me. I've always been bad at getting that first kiss. Once i've got the kiss i have no problem but getting there is an issue for me. I'm sorry for the step by step break-down but I'm trying to really focus on what I'm weak at and thought i'd give as much detail as possible. My confidence is like a see-saw. Sometimes i know nothing can stop me and i can do anything but a lot of the time its non-existant. Cheers guys |
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| Author: | Patience [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 12:48 am ] |
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Ok, from what i've seen, you are pretty under control in this situation. One thing that stood out to me is the fact that you texted her right after you saw her. DONT DO THIS. It shows you being clingy. Wait a few days then text her. One thing you are gonna have to do is escalate KINO. Next time you guys are together take her hand/wrist and lead her somewhere. Hug on her a little bit. Hell,pat her head and say "good girl" (neg+kino). Do something to start creating tension. Be like "what's that smell" grab the area behind her neck, pull her in then lean in close to her neck and smell her. Do nething like this and it will certainly help. By the way it looks you are doing well, just dont become clingy and try to escalate and you should be good to go! -Patience |
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| Author: | Nightfox [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 9:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Creating a tension, stepping up kino and reading the sig |
Quote: I'm truly sorry for the length of the post but if you can spare the time to read it and give me a kick in the right direction i wont even hit you back...probably thank you.
Don't apologize for yourself. Show that you rarely get rejected and don't excuse yourself for being you. Excusing yourself for unnessesary things is a quite strong DLV, and judging by the level you're on and the quality of your post, you have no reason whatsoever to apologize 
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| Author: | Seraph_20 [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 9:54 am ] |
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Cheers Patience, quality stuff there and it seems simple enough for me to get things moving and hopefully get her going. I think your right once i step up the kino and get more comfortable with it the tension will escalate naturally. I've been thinking of a couple of things to perhaps do this as well if i manage to get her over to my house: 1. As soon as i meet her at my door give her a hug and bring her inside; i get her to wipe her feet, close the door, then touch her toes (being deadly serious-doing it myself if need be to get her to do it). And then walk away into the next room without saying a word. -I reckon that will be showing her im in control and making her do stupid stuff being able to play with her and sort of sets the tone right from the minute she walks in the door. 2.While were doing whatever (baking) and she is talking interupt her telling her to be quiet by telling her and putting my finger on her lips. Pretending as if i can hear something upstairs and looking serious. Tell her calmly to keep doing what shes doing and just relax while i go check upstairs.Obviously coming back down saying it was nothing just a swinging door or whatever. - I think this should cause a bit of fear and tension but she should be reassured by me and we can laugh about it later (You should have seen your face etc.). Any comments or ideas are welcome. Thanks Nightfox for the constructive critism, i do find myself apologising where there is no need so i'll work on that!! |
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