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| Author: | svenska [ Mon Aug 04, 2008 6:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | New to this - question |
So, I met this girl. She works at a local cafe. We started talking. She was positive. She expressed interest in something a creative hobby I have. I came back and dropped off a sample for her when she was not there. I saw her a couple days later. She said she really liked it. I said let's meet on Thursday, got her number, and left. I called Wednesday and left a message. She didn't reply. Thursday I sent a text asking if we were on for that night. No reply. This weekend, I went back to the cafe - I like it, and I wanted to follow up. She was there, very apologetic, tons of excuses. I said, don't worry, no big deal, just played it cool. She gave me a free drink. I went and did my thing for a while. A little while after leaving, sent a message saying thanks for the drink. She found me on facebook and wrote a long message explaining that she's busy, wants to get together in a couple of weeks, yadda, yadda, yadda. So, do I respond? I want to get control of this situation and all, but I'm not sure how. Any advice is appreciated. I sense there's a way to game her, just don't know what it is. |
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| Author: | svenska [ Mon Aug 04, 2008 6:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | What do you call what she is doing? |
Shit test? Just plain old bull shit? |
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| Author: | Sexcellent [ Mon Aug 04, 2008 8:00 pm ] |
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all the excuses she gave you, she might as well have just said "I don't have comfort with you yet". obviously she's not gonna say that but you get the point. sounds like you built attraction and some comfort now. i think you need to do some damage control and DHV to undo the obvious DLV you've shown by giving too many IOI's. don't let her fit you in her schedule, you have to make like you are finding a way to fit her into yours! maybe say you are really busy over the next few weeks, but you are free on X and Y, so should meet you out on those days. you are in a good spot right now, but i'm no expert so i'm just giving you my opinion. I'd like to see what some of the more experienced PUA's say. |
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| Author: | Augustus [ Mon Aug 04, 2008 8:05 pm ] |
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You should run some DHV stories and if possible find a way to display non-neediness in a way that feels comfortable to you( you need to figure that out on your own). To be successful in this game you need to "fake it until you make it", be a fucking 10. Act like you have other options and you don't need her, this conveys that you are desired, and that you come social proofed. |
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| Author: | Facher [ Mon Aug 04, 2008 11:23 pm ] |
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Why did you give her anything, dude? It's like.. one of the forbidden things to do! Unless you got your inner game right, you shouldn't give things.. as it could be percieved as TRYING TO BUY HER LOVE. Anyhow, she wouldn't have looked for you on FB if she didn't care. That's an IOI. Go with the otheronez advice and do some serious DHV and invite her to something you usually do. "I'll go shopping with my mates this weekend, want to come with?" If she denies, you will still do it.. still have a great time = not needy. |
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