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Author:  genesismagic [ Fri Aug 01, 2008 9:07 pm ]
Post subject:  need help on something that has been bothering me?
I have a 2 part question that would be greatly appreciated if u can help me out. So I’ve been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks now and everything is going great. I talk to her like everyday for like 4 hours straight, i think this is bad though because we talk so much that i start to run out on alot to say because we talk so much. She lives a half hour away which isn’t bad but that’s why i talk to her so much on aim. My first question is, is it bad to be talking that much with a girl. The second thing is I recently hung out with her and I’m 17 years old, and we were alone we were looking at each other it was the perfect time to go for the kiss. I know for a fact I wasn’t scared and i was really attracted to her to so why didn’t i do it. Maybe u guys can have a better understanding on why i didn’t because it’s really bothering me?
Author:  soup [ Fri Aug 01, 2008 9:18 pm ]
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im 17 as well so im hoping i can relate to your situation..
4 hours a night, no matter what way thats phrased it seems like serious interest, however how long will she continue to be interested, your expected to make a move, not her..
i know from experience waiting to long for some crystal clear signal of intent means you can lose your opportunity, girls are reluctant to give it i think..

as for the second part i cant help you, i really dont know
Author:  Devious [ Fri Aug 01, 2008 9:25 pm ]
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Four hours a day is a lot of talking. If you continue this, make sure your conversations have a sexual vibe most of the time. AIM provides little opportunity to build attraction and a lot of time to build comfort, so beware of getting LJBFed.

I suspect you might subconsciously believe that she doesn't want you to kiss her. Even if you weren't scared, you might have been thinking "I should respect her boundaries" or something like that. Really try to internalize the belief that women want you to escalate.
Author:  Infamous110 [ Fri Aug 01, 2008 9:28 pm ]
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4 hours is a lot of investment - you can use this to get physical meetings more often. Otherwise you will become a friend.

You were scared. There may be overriding emotions here, but you need to be honest with yourself as to the underlying meaning. She's not going to do it for you, and if she does she will likely lose a little of that attraction she has for you.
Author:  Reo [ Sat Aug 02, 2008 4:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: need help on something that has been bothering me?
I'll break it down for you
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I have a 2 part question that would be greatly appreciated if u can help me out. So I’ve been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks now and everything is going great.
No everything is not great 3 weeks and not even a kiss just fluff talk ur on ur to LJBF land
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I talk to her like everyday for like 4 hours straight, i think this is bad though because we talk so much that i start to run out on alot to say because we talk so much. She lives a half hour away which isn’t bad but that’s why i talk to her so much on aim
4 hours everyday is too long to be talking to anybody. NEVER give a girl your aim address now she knows when your at home doing absolutely nothing and talking to her... boring!!! (i bet money on it you usually initiate the aim convo with her)
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My first question is, is it bad to be talking that much with a girl.
See above response but in case u missed it YES!!!
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The second thing is I recently hung out with her and I’m 17 years old, and we were alone we were looking at each other it was the perfect time to go for the kiss. I know for a fact I wasn’t scared and i was really attracted to her to so why didn’t i do it.
You were scared it came down to it and you bitched out
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Maybe u guys can have a better understanding on why i didn’t because it’s really bothering me?

whats the worst that can happen with this girl? She says "NO" you may go cry about but least you won't waste anymore of your time theres plenty of other girls in this world. Just go for it
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