PUA Forum :: Could not maintain hard on during sex. Please please help!!

Man, don't be so hard on yourself, these things DO happen. Also, if she's the first girl you're having sex with after having employed your PU skills, it tends to give a different feeling to things. You are
half thinking about wanting to have sex with her and half thinking about what you should be doing next, doing freeze-outs and stuff and running over stuff advice people may have given you that pops into your head and that just adds to the nervousness. I mean, I could be wrong, but from how you wrote it, it sounds like you were kinda in that mindset to me and that can definitely be distracting, so you've got to just live in the moment and enjoy it.

Also, believe it or not, women are really quite understanding, I mean, they don't have to DO anything in order to be capable of having sex, so the fact that we have something that has to be functional, they seem to get that if it doesn't work, it isn't exactly like a light switch (at least this is my experience and I've experienced this...more than I'd like to have, due to being diabetic and having terrible blood circulation). Here's the thing, realise that she's understanding of this, don't worry about it, give yourself a break and next time try not to think about it, just enjoy yourself, cause you know she did the other night and she will again.

Author:	Hifly [ Wed Jul 30, 2008 12:11 am ]
Post subject:	Could not maintain hard on during sex. Please please help!!
I've been using techniques as suggested in here and everything was going great. She's been extremely keen and this evening I went to her place. Was kissing her loads and fondling her breasts, stroking her ass and I had a right hard on throughout.Then we took all our clothes off still hard on and went in for the kill. Poking around trying to get the right place and then I lost my bloody hard on!! Could not get it back up Then realised it wasn't going to happen so just kissed again and chatted. Can't blame it on booze as was totally sober. Stupid thing is 30mins later kissing her again got the hard on back again but I didn't want to try again. I think possibe problems are I haven't had full sex for years. Maybe I lost the knack. Maybe too much masturbating previous days. What can I do? Anyone any tips or advice please cause if I can't sort this out I'm going to have a very very lonely life ahead of me

Author:	dieselfuel [ Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:44 am ]
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Mmm, this is tricky. During my first lay of the summer, I lost my hard on after round 1. What was worse is that I lost it while in round 2. The thing that helped me was foreplay. I messed with her pussy till the sexual tension was pleasantly unbearable. That and a good blowjob never hurts.

Author:	Rye Lee [ Wed Jul 30, 2008 1:49 am ]
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Another guy on a different forum asked a very similar question last night and this is what I told him and what I'm gonna tell you. Quote: Man, don't be so hard on yourself, these things DO happen. Also, if she's the first girl you're having sex with after having employed your PU skills, it tends to give a different feeling to things. You are half thinking about wanting to have sex with her and half thinking about what you should be doing next, doing freeze-outs and stuff and running over stuff advice people may have given you that pops into your head and that just adds to the nervousness. I mean, I could be wrong, but from how you wrote it, it sounds like you were kinda in that mindset to me and that can definitely be distracting, so you've got to just live in the moment and enjoy it. Also, believe it or not, women are really quite understanding, I mean, they don't have to DO anything in order to be capable of having sex, so the fact that we have something that has to be functional, they seem to get that if it doesn't work, it isn't exactly like a light switch (at least this is my experience and I've experienced this...more than I'd like to have, due to being diabetic and having terrible blood circulation). Here's the thing, realise that she's understanding of this, don't worry about it, give yourself a break and next time try not to think about it, just enjoy yourself, cause you know she did the other night and she will again. Don't masturbate at all, rely on sex, this also increases your drive to have sex occur and is great for inspiring you to pick girls up. Give yourself a break and realise that it's just nervousness and the more you stress about it, the worse it's gonna be, so you've just gotta relax and let things happen.

Author:	Hifly [ Wed Jul 30, 2008 6:37 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice guys. Yeah your definately right about the masturbation thing will have to go cold turkey on that whether I like it or not. I think I've almost become too relient on it ( basically everyday). She seems very understand at the moment and admits that maybe we rushed things a bit too much. I'm see her in a few days time so hopefully we can just play around with eachother until I get more relaxed then hopefully I'll be able to perform at the right time. Thanks for help guys.

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