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| Author: | El Nico [ Sat Jul 26, 2008 8:26 pm ] |
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I am very perplexed by what happened to me last night. I go out with this girl from work (im working for a month only though during the summer), an HB7 to a bar in New York and we are having some conversation and drinks and then move into a nightclub where we start grinding and we dance for around two hours, she being tipsy, I with only 2 drinks on me. Although we are dancing very close to each other and she allows to touch her almost anywhere, yet everytime i would go in for the kiss with triangular gaze she would avoid my eyes and when I tried grabbing the back of her neck to approach her to me she would avoid my mouth. So this goes on for some time until we leave the club and i get a cab and take her to her house. By the time she is in her house, she is mildly drunk and we go to bed where i start massafinf her and then get her to kiss me and as we start kissing i take off her shirt but then she complains about how she is tired and i just stopped and went to sleep in my side of the bed. (i still dont know if i should have insisted because she was drunk and i did not want to look as if taking advantage of her). we wake up today and even though we are cuddled together i dont try anything this morning. Could anyone tell me why she did not want to kiss yet was so willing to be close to me and ended up kissing me in the house? Could someone also tell me what to do next time a girl that is drunk says she is tired and wants to sleep, considering she is a working partner? |
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| Author: | El Nico [ Sat Jul 26, 2008 8:29 pm ] |
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last question...could someone tell me what i should do next....because i dont know if i should tell her she is unique and i am attracted to her..please help |
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| Author: | tynacorp [ Sat Jul 26, 2008 11:08 pm ] |
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You said that said that you work with her, maybe she doesn't want to do anything since she thinks it will get around the office. |
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| Author: | El Nico [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 4:38 am ] |
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not really since its for an internship and we go out many times so she doesnt care about the others |
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| Author: | Infamous110 [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 4:47 am ] |
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It looks like you skipped attraction entirely |
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| Author: | Rye Lee [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 9:12 am ] |
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Quote: last question...could someone tell me what i should do next....because i dont know if i should tell her she is unique and i am attracted to her..please help
Ok, to give you an idea of how bad of an idea that is, when I read that sentence, I said out loud, "Eww!"That is gonna be THE biggest turn-off ever, she will become completely uninterested if you say that, believe me. If you want to get with her, then you need to actually make her attracted to you and stop acting so needy when you don't have her attracted. If you had handled yourself better on the dance floor, then things might have gone farther, but when you were trying to triangle gaze, she looked away because she wasn't interested in kissing and when you tried to pull her in for the kiss, she avoided your mouth, cause she wasn't interested in you sexually. She was having fun and screwing around with you, sometimes that's what chicks do when a guy gives them that kind of power; I know, I've been there, but don't worry, you can fix it. What you need to do, is show some dissinterest. Instead of telling her that you think she's "unique" and that you're "attracted to her", remain friendly, show her that you can handle what she throws at you, but not act like an AFC. Here's your mindset: You enjoyed it, it was fun and you guys should do it again, but you're fine if it doesn't happen again. You keep this mindset, you act that way towards her and if she talks about it, you speak with that in mind, while also creating a sexual frame, by speaking in a powerful and seductive tone (not because you are trying to seduce her, but because that's who you are, that's what's in your blood and you emote because of it) and she'll want to do it again. You escalate kino, start small and work up, if you don't know how to do this, then check out the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder for some help. Once you've got this going and you have been increasing kino as well as made her want to have fun with you again cause you aren't gonna suddenly fall in love with her because of it, you're acting rationally (women aren't rational, but they prefer their men to be that way up until the point that THEY fall in love, THEN they want you to think more with your heart, but until then make sure to use your brain). So now she's comfortable touching you and attracted and enjoys the feeling, so she will be more interested in it and much less interested in sleep. If she is still interested in sleep, either you haven't got her attracted to you, you need to learn how to please a woman more, or she's so drunk that it's gonna be really messed up if you have sex with her and you should not be creepy like that. A lot of that stuff is much easier said that done, especially if you haven't developed good outer game and more importantly inner game. So if you can't pull it off, don't worry about it and get wrapped up in it, she's just one girl, she ISN'T "unique" and if you just keep trying to learn, eventually you will get to the point where that mindset is easily achievable when needed and you can get the girls like that. Remember, don't get hooked on this one girl, cause even if it sucks you don't get her, short term pain and long term gain outweigh long term pain of pining for her and the long term lack of gain of not actually working on your skill, just placating to her. Be The Man. |
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| Author: | El Nico [ Sun Jul 27, 2008 8:17 pm ] |
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thanks very much rye lee. I know better what to do now and i will inform u guys what i do next and what happens next.. i also wnat to tell u guys that i had gone out two or three times before this night with her mostly to bars and restaurants...should i keep on taking her to these places or should i look for something different to do before going to the nightclub on friday night? |
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| Author: | Rye Lee [ Mon Jul 28, 2008 4:49 am ] |
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Quote: thanks very much rye lee. I know better what to do now and i will inform u guys what i do next and what happens next..
If you're looking for more than just a friend with benifits, then do more stuff, if you are looking for a girl that you work with, can hang out with at the bar and have sex with, but nothing more emotionally, then keep going to bars.
i also wnat to tell u guys that i had gone out two or three times before this night with her mostly to bars and restaurants...should i keep on taking her to these places or should i look for something different to do before going to the nightclub on friday night? |
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| Author: | michaellangelo [ Mon Jul 28, 2008 11:10 am ] |
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Quote: last question...could someone tell me what i should do next....because i dont know if i should tell her she is unique and i am attracted to her..please help
dont do that for starters................ |
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| Author: | El Nico [ Wed Aug 06, 2008 4:23 am ] |
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i am now doing much better..just one step from sex. after using some push-pull games, some microcalibration, and the fact that i unfortunately (financially) came out as a huge baller on saturday b/c i bought a bottle that was supposed to be split between 3 guys by myself in a club i ended up fingering her and making out for a long time. unfortunately she slept in a friends house, we are 18 the both of us and are staying in other people's houses, yet probably on friday she is coming over, but thank u guys very much for the advice, i am not having trouble at all making out during weekday nights in our walks around the city so i was really able to avoid buyer;s remorse. update u on saturday night, which unfortunately is my last night in new york before i go home. |
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