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| Author: | cart3 [ Wed Jul 23, 2008 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | recover, shot down by coworker |
I've been talking to this coworker. Went to lunch. Played some pool at the game room. She walked with me to run errands. Apparently I got the wrong idea and eventually asked "If I can take her out" when we get back from Iraq which is real soon. She said we can go out with the other coworkers together. I said OK. Didn't act disappointed or ask any looser questions (ie.Why? etc.). She also said she just got out of a relationship and didn't want to be a part of that "madness" right now. How can I recover and eventually ask her out again without appearing desperate? PS. I really like her. I don't think I've projected any desperation to be with her after rejecting me. The next day I did invite her to the coffee shop as usual just as I did before I asked her If I can take her out. |
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| Author: | Exile [ Wed Jul 23, 2008 3:49 pm ] |
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Ah been there before mate it sounds like you went in to fast and could of done with gaming her a little more before you went in! but never mind all is no lost you just need a little perseverance. Now alot of PUA's believe that once you have been shot down theres no chance of recovering so you should move on but that is not always the case. If you read the Game Neil Strauss was shot down again and again by his current girlfriend before he finally got her. Now in my Experience with these situations you have now got to play the long term game it can take days weeks or even a few months. There maybe PUA's who can do a recovery with short term game but I havent seen any. Your in Danger of friend zoning so here is what you can do. 1. First of all take a step back make her feel that level of comfort and securty she had with with you again before you asked her out. But remember dont fall into the AFC LJBF trap! 2. Dont dwell on her if you start to fall into oneitis you will come across as needy let her see that you dont need her and are unphased by the rejection. Your playing the long term game here always remember she will be yours in the end so you need'nt worry. 3. Dont let her imasculate or mentally Neuter you. Alot of girls will start to treat guys like there girl friends and you become the gay best friend. Dont be her personal Psychiatrist dont be on call to help her with relationship problems especially one with an Ex the last thing you want to do is fix a broken relationship. 4. Rebuild sexual tension One of the best ways to do this is to treat her like on of your male friends instead. Do things like calling her Dude and talk about what chicks you like in front of her. This will really get under her skin and cause her to reassert her femininty around you and act in a more sexual way. Also a bit ofl Kino goes down well nothing to sexual at first a bit of Hi Fiving or maybee even a playful wet willy if the vibe is right. 5. Demonstrate Higher Value! There are several ways you can do this but im gonna talk about social proof! Carry on seeing other women I know your better judgment maybe advising you against this but Women always want what someone else has! Hope thats some help Brah. Good luck in Iraq dude! Stay Safe Exile |
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| Author: | cc [ Thu Jul 24, 2008 2:01 am ] |
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i have a strict dont play where you work policy for many reasons which is why i am glade this one hb8 is quiting now i can start the game which i have already started with arrousing success |
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| Author: | cart3 [ Thu Jul 24, 2008 6:27 am ] |
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Thanks for the sound advise Exile. The Alpha Males in the group and CBs are already talking about other females I've been chatting up and hanging out with. Hopefully this gets around to the target. I'm definitely going to follow up on the other points on your post. cart3 |
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