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| Author: | dark one [ Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | I cant get over my social anxiety! no matter what.... |
I go and talk to women and im not sure why but I get social anxiety, I try to block it out but then I over think shit, and it just turn acquired....I think to much about the next thing im going to say, or how I loo, how my breath smells...ect ect. I need help! |
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| Author: | Chief [ Tue Jul 15, 2008 9:31 am ] |
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Think about the first time you've ridden a roller coaster. In one scenario, you could be scared shitless before you get in the roller coaster car. In another scenario, you could be exhilarated and thrilled and excited before you get in the roller coaster car. There's a thing called the "fight or flight" response your body experiences when you find yourself in stressful situations, such as those few moments before you approach a girl, and even WHILE you're talking to her. When you are scared of riding the roller coaster, you are in flight mode. You just want to bail. When you are EXCITED, you are in fight mode. You feel like nothing else matters except MOVING FORWARD. Learn the self-control necessary to switch your flight to fight. It's going to take time and experience, though. Be patient and take the right actions. |
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| Author: | Bill Leftweed [ Tue Jul 15, 2008 4:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Zen |
There is a really good book called Zen in the Art of Archery I suggest you read it. |
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| Author: | Playfellow [ Tue Jul 15, 2008 4:58 pm ] |
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Just stop thinking so much about this  I think that the biggest problem is that you have the mindset that women are the choosers. You've already convinced yourself that they are the ones with higher value. Instead try to view things like this: you are going to have fun with them and if they live up to your standards you will get together. And don't focus on the result - you should just relax and enjoy the interaction. If you are relaxed, confident and just having fun, everything will be fine.
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