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Author:  Insight [ Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:21 pm ]
Post subject:  How do I recover from blowing a very good level of comfort?
Here's what happened...

I had met the sister of a close friend of mine some time ago, there was sexual tension, but no opportunity. He and I live in the same house, she came to visit on his birthday and things went very well for me (almost f-close, kinda "just the tip"d it). The thing is that this girl is about an HB8-8.5 and has an 11 personality.

The past year and a half, I've been generally indifferent to girls, but I genuinely like this one and it was mutual. Aside from fooling around literally all night, we were up talking in before, after and partly during.

Anyway, I was going through some shit and got weird on her. I definitely came off as WAY too clingy and it really put her off. I saw her like a month and change later and it was UBER awkward. I saw her again about a month ago and mostly cleared it up on the friends level.

At this point, I would really like to reopen those other doors I got shut in my face. :roll:
Author:  Trey Burnside [ Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:41 pm ]
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Stop the oneitis and move on! She'll recognize your change and see how confident you are, and will want more than the tip.

I did the same with a girl a while ago, so she started dating someone else before I could really fix things. I won't make that mistake again, she was a HB9 with a sick ass body!
Author:  Insight [ Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:18 am ]
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I appreciate that, but it isn't really one-itis. I don't expect to see this girl more than once every few months. I one-itis'd her for a month or so which is what made it uncomfortable to begin with.

Its more like a side-project / investment (if there is a good precedent, I would really like to finish what we started, then maybe I'd want to pursue something way down the line). Like I said, I just want to know how to handle the next time that I see her (which will either be in the next 2 weeks or not for at least 2 months). Any thoughts?
Author:  Zennixx [ Wed Jul 02, 2008 4:59 am ]
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I don't expect to see this girl more than once every few months.
Move on. If you don't see the girl a lot, nor you talk to her (I'm assuming since you stated that it got awkward between the both of you) over the phone, then it's best to just part ways and hit up the clubs for HBs.

Remember, there are plenty of HBs out there, just gotta have game :D.
Author:  Insight [ Wed Jul 02, 2008 9:41 am ]
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Yeah man, amen to that. I know I sound completely AFC one-itis'd. I don't know though. I'm not like obsessed or held back, I just don't like to leave a job half done. Like, her and I are back on good terms at least as friends, and honestly, it may fix itself after we've chilled a couple times. I think its just a point that I want to prove to myself that I can recover the occasional hiccup if I feel its worthwhile. Again, thanks for the encouragement, it is much appreciated.
Author:  Insight [ Thu Jul 03, 2008 3:25 am ]
Post subject:  Status changed
So I am currently in Israel and this girl will be here in a few days. I have a unique and awesome opportunity (create a bond and memory in a far off and meaningful location) and I would like to make the most of it. We are definitely cool as friends, I am not sure where to go with this because I don't have time to "ease" back towards physical slowly.

Relevant advise?
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