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| Author: | dannydub619 [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:20 am ] |
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so me and this girl have hooked up before, we were both a little drunk, when I say a little I mean, I was drunk about an hour before and it was pretty worn off. Anyways, we will hangout, but she is always looking for something to do. She can never just hangout with me and a couple of people. Like if she comes to my house and we will be drinking and what not, and she will be calling around trying to figure out what to do that night. This is just her personality, even when we hooked up at my house, me and her were in my bed, and her friend and a friend of mine were in the room. We didn't have sex or anything, but I don't understand why she always has to be doing something. What can I do? I just want like 30 minutes of alone time |
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| Author: | rexlexia [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 5:24 am ] |
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Sounds like you need to let her know that you're time is worth a bit more than she thinks it is. Next time she does this try calling a friend and doing the same thing, ask what they are up to then tell her you are going over to that friends place. When she asks why, calmly say "I thought we were looking for things to do tonight, I'm afraid we may have to hang out some other time." It'll take a little finese to do this right and come of innocently, but if done correctly it should help break her of this nasty habbit. Good luck. |
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| Author: | dannydub619 [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:10 am ] |
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thanks for the response, anyways I hung out with her tonight, so I brought her to this haunted place and it was me and her alone, and everything was going fine, not an awkward moment, I stayed in control the whole time, we had good conversation, even talked about sexual things for a while, but we simply didn't do anything. I don't know why, I could have brought it to the next step but for some reason I didn't. Does this ever happen to anyone? I wasn't nervous, it's just so many thoughts went through my head. I didn't want her to think I have feelings for her, and Im just not sure why I didn't go for it. We even played the "who can keep a straight face" game, and I kept puckering my lips to hold back from smiling, and she said that it was cheating, and I said I wasn't smiling, but I was puckering my lips because I wanted a kiss, but I just simply stopped it there. I guess what I was most nervous about, was the awkwardness after the hookup, if there was going to be any. Is this normal? |
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| Author: | Crono [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:22 am ] |
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bah i did the same thing with this other girl i like but there was more kino and no sexual talk or puckering. i think this is a common problem for all new pua's |
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| Author: | dannydub619 [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 7:39 am ] |
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really? I hope so, I almost feel guilty as to become a PUA because I got hurt in a 3 year relationship and realize I just want to have fun with as many girls as possible now, without being a womanizer. We are taught to believe that it is wrong, and I guess I need to get over it to become a true PUA, because I guess you could say guilt was the only thing holding me back |
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| Author: | rexlexia [ Mon Jun 30, 2008 8:00 am ] |
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Don't worry about it danny what your doing isn't wrong. You got hurt, now you're looking to have some fun that's fine. One of my sticking points used to be physical connection, but from the sounds of things you most likely had the IOIs to make your move. Don't worry about it that's really a minor detail that will get better with practice. Sounds like you are making great progress. |
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