This is a much more common problem than people think. Sometimes this is due to a physical issue, but most commonly it is just psychological.
If you're attracted to the girl, you stop thinking about the fact that you're gonna be having sex, it's not a big thing, people do it every day, so don't put pressure on yourself, it's a natural part of being a human being. Don't get mad at yourself for it not working as you'd like, because that only makes it worse. Take it easy, take your time and do some foreplay to relax; go down on her, have her go down on you, so you get used to the idea of just being naked with a girl and that you're doing sexual acts together.
Let her know you sometimes have difficulties, or even tell her straight up that you're a virgin and a bit nervous. Girls are very understanding in my experience with this issue (yeah, I'm diabetic and due to poor circulation I've got this issue, thank god for science and the little pills it creates).
I'd suggest finding a position that makes it easier for you to get hard, personally I find having her on the edge of the bed so that when you "mount", you are standing on the floor works best. This position gives you the ability to look at her and have a visual aid to get yourself going, as well as being able to give it a few strokes to get it/keep it up before you begin. Once you start, as long as you keep it going, you shouldn't have much difficulty, especially if it's just psychological.
If you're having trouble even by yourself and none of that stuff works for you, then go see a doctor. Go to a walk in clinic or something if you don't want to see your family doctor, but go see one. They invented all sorts of different things to help with this issue and there's no shame in it. I've been diabetic since before I was 14, so by the time I started sleeping with people at 18/19, I already was having issues, but in order to have sex, I went to the doctor, got some pills and no issue after that. If you feel at all immasculated that you can't get an erection, then taking a pill won't make you feel less of a man, it'll make you feel like more of one, seriously.
P.S. I recommend Cialis of Viagra, as it lasts 24-36 hours instead of only 4-6 and it doesn't cause as much facial "flushing" (basically Viagra causes such increased blood flow that your face also becomes full of blood and it can be hot and uncomfortable). Note you won't have a 36 hour hard on, merely the increased ability to achieve one during that time.
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