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| Author: | Carnivore [ Fri Jun 06, 2008 3:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | AGGG, Frustrated! Can't # close! Help! |
I need to vent. I'm a 23 year old guy who is lacking the ability to ask a girl for her number or email. I can easily talk to them and flirt, but when the time comes to ask for a number or email, I completely freeze. Something inside me doesn't allow me to say "Give your me your number". I was talking with this HB8 tonight and I felt like she was sort of flirty. I tried to ask for her number, but all that came out is "I gotta go, see ya". I felt terrible! As I was driving home, I was kicking myself. I'm just having so much trouble doing this! I know it's just a fear factor thing, but something is really holding me back. Maybe if I had a few buddies to do this with, I'd be better off. I feel like I have no support. So I'm looking at you guys to help shape my backbone. Any suggestions, tips you guys have so I can get those words ("give me your number") out of my mouth would be so useful. Thanks |
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| Author: | Solomon II [ Fri Jun 06, 2008 5:25 am ] |
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I dunno where this fear is coming from, but if that's the only thing holding you back we need to sort it out. If you just can't say it, just hand her your phone... she'll know what to do, and if she asks you what you're doing then you'll pretty much have to tell her otherwise risk looking crazy. 
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| Author: | thatkidej [ Fri Jun 06, 2008 5:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: AGGG, Frustrated! Can't # close! Help! |
Quote: As I was driving home, I was kicking myself.
That doesn't sound too safe. Hahaha  Anyways, don't trip. The hard part is talking at all. Don't ask for her number. Tell her you'd like to continue the conversation, let her decide how. Or pull a Style; write your name and number on half of a business card, tear it in half, give her the blank piece and the pen, then trade with her. You get her number, she gets your's, and you just made it look like you've done it so many times that it's no thing. Don't forget to point to your cheek and say "Kiss goodbye"! 
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| Author: | supa [ Fri Jun 06, 2008 12:52 pm ] |
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I suffered this same problem, still do in fact although Im getting better. It just didnt seem natural to ask for a number, or even though shit was going well I just feared the rejection side of things. I especially fear and loath having to do it when people are in ear-shot of my conversation, I just fear her saying "no sorry" and I gotta face the people around me. Anyway, told a pal this and he said "dont be a dick just say, "so you gonna give me your number then?", or just pass her your phone and say "put your number in there for me"". I tried this and it works, just passed my phone to a girl and told her to put her number in there and she did. This was quite easy though as the girl was actually chatting me up, she was a barmaid and told me I was handsome, I said she was good looking then just passed her my phone and said "think you'd better put your number in there then". But it has worked on other occasions. The best is when you're in a bar with loud music (this works for me because I've got an unusual name), get talking to a girl and really flirt with her, with a bit of luck she'll be quite tipsy, she asks your name, you say it just quiet enough so she cant hear it, you say "hang on", get your phone out, open up a new text message, write your name and pass her the phone so she can read it, she says "oh..." and repaets your name. 9 times out of 10 they automatically put their name and number in there, if they just put the name, you say "is there a number to go with it?". Worked loads of times for me! |
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