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| Author: | OneManWonder [ Thu Feb 08, 2007 6:45 pm ] |
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I havn't read or heard anything about what to do when one of your girlfriends is loosing interest. Whats the best way to pull her back to being all about you? |
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| Author: | tan [ Thu Feb 08, 2007 7:38 pm ] |
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Freeze her out.. if that doesn't work, find another to replace her. Replace, don't chase! tan... |
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| Author: | Custom [ Thu Feb 08, 2007 9:07 pm ] |
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Well I wouldn't freeze some one out that doesn't seem interested in you any more... If anything... Think back to when you frist met... What did you do ? Think back to when yall first kissed... Then next time if you go out and you know she is gonna be there, pull that shit in front of her with some other girl... But honestly, if don't fit, then don't force it ya know... |
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| Author: | Climax [ Fri Feb 09, 2007 10:32 am ] |
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Hey Braklers To be honest mate, if it feels that she's loosing intrest, then its time to move on! Take it from personal experience - i was going out with a girl for 2 yrs, and the last 4 months were hell! She wasnt interested anymore, but i kept trying to make it work - it always ended up with arguments! You can always try going on a break - But i tried that and it didnt work! I felt like shit when it finished (I know thats a lil AFC) but now im in such a better place! After going on a Rampage of sleeping with girls, that i had missed out on (during the age of 18 - 20, i wasted my prime!) Im now with a Girl who's soooo much better! So you never know! Every cloud has a silver lining and all that b*ll*cks! |
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| Author: | Mister War [ Fri Feb 09, 2007 3:20 pm ] |
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If she's loosing interest, she's not coming back, she's just looking for a good time to leave. Only thing you can do is not care anymore. Break up with her cause you'll feel a lot better than if she dumps you-- but when you do it, tell her it's because you think you should see other people. Then she'll wonder who you want to see and why it's not her. She'll feel insecure and maybe start to doubt herself. After the break-up, pick-up. Be seen with as many hot chicks as possible. Don't expect any of this to bring her back --it probably won't. BUT if she does want to keep trying (more importantly, if YOU want to keep trying) if you're back together do NOT act like the same whipped puppy you probably were when you were together. Challenge this chick. Make it seem like you're only still in it cause you feel bad for her (like she's doing to you right now) --make her prove herself to you. Make her jump through hoops and then reward her every once in a while for it. |
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| Author: | Element [ Fri Feb 09, 2007 5:21 pm ] |
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Listen, I'm not trying to be rude to anybody. But I personally think everybody's advice to this post sucks. tan, a freeze-out would be stupid. He might as well just ask her to leave. You don't return lack of interest with lack of interest. You show lack of interest when you know they're interested. *shakes head* Custom, I liked where you were going. Saying to think back to how he was when he first met her. Because most likely, he turned into a non-spontaneous, un-fun, wuss. At least in comparison to the man she started the relationship with. But then you say to do it with another girl in front of her. Why not do it with his girlfriend? Climax, I agree, and I don't. Yes, some relationships just aren't meant to work. But just because she's showing signs of losing interest, doesn't mean move on. Damage control in a relationship isn't like damage control in a pick-up. Mister War, just like Climax, is jumping to assumptions. Yes, a girl will wait for the best time to leave. But only once she's made the concious decision to do so. Other than that, Mister War's advice is good. I assume most of these guys haven't had long relationships... or at least not good relationships. There IS still a chance. Although do not get your hopes up. You need to be more spontaneous, you need to be more fun. Don't be afraid to tease, don't be afraid to goof around with her. And if you spend alot of time saying things like: "Well, what do you want to do?" or "Hun, what's wrong?" then you need to stop doing that. That's called "she has me by the balls". Don't act like a wuss. |
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| Author: | Custom [ Fri Feb 09, 2007 5:37 pm ] |
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I'm talking from a standpoint where shit is already over... If she has lost interest in him, the only thing you can do is to move on... Fuck that shit, running thru her loops and hoops... If a bird want to fly away, she will... Don't get too emotionally attached... Opinions are like ass wholes, we all have one... The thing is Element, everyone that posted a reply see's the sitatuion a lil different, but we all agreed to not persue the bird... If she ain't feeling him, move on simple as that... Lets say for a brief minute this girl will give him a chance, then he's gonna get his hopes up, but at any given moment she will revert to not feeling him anymore, and there he goes crashing down again... He could be random, adventerous, and all that other shit, but I personally think its too late, I mean if she is not interested, let her go, and move on... Communication is a two way street...Why should he try to get her attention? Why didn't she communicate with him as to what is wrong? If she did, then he wouldn't be posting shit askin how to keep a bird in the coupe... I thinks it is past the point of salvage... As R.Kelly sings "When a women's fed up...There is nothing you can do about it..." In any relationship, there has to be equals, equal love, equal hate, equality... -Custom- |
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| Author: | Mister War [ Fri Feb 09, 2007 9:46 pm ] |
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I agree with that, "...when a women's fed up, there is nothing you can do about it..." Quote: Communication is a two way street...Why should he try to get her attention? Why didn't she communicate with him as to what is wrong? If she did, then he wouldn't be posting shit askin how to keep a bird in the coupe..
The girl herself probably doesn't even know what's wrong. She just knows how she feels. Guys try to fix problems logically --they want to know what the problem is and how to fix it --logically. Girls operate based off of their emotions. All the logic in the world isn't going to convince them to feel differently --they'll probably just be more confused because their logical minds and their emotions are in conflict. Sooner or later, they're gonna bail. He's gotta reach her emotionally --trigger her attraction switches. make her wonder why he's suddenly so different and doesn't seem to care anymore-- which may or may not bring her back. The thing is, this is really hard to pull off --you have to be happy, upbeat, feeling good about yourself, confident with yourself and others --all hard to do when you're sick over losing a girl and she's not responding the way you think she should. If you sulk, pout, get mad, get cranky, get possessive, get defensive... it's all over. You have to not care one bit. No outcome expectations. In my experience, I've never had more power in any relationship then when it was clear I had one foot out the door. |
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| Author: | theslackpack [ Sun Feb 11, 2007 3:49 am ] |
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really short post here - move on - get some social proof - have other girls on your arms. before she knows it she will wonder why she was going off you and why all of a sudden she is so hot for you. break away! get some new clothes - get a hair cut - work out. improve yourself for you. good luck brother |
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| Author: | Custom [ Tue Feb 13, 2007 6:04 pm ] |
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Quote: really short post here - move on - get some social proof - have other girls on your arms. before she knows it she will wonder why she was going off you and why all of a sudden she is so hot for you. break away! get some new clothes - get a hair cut - work out. improve yourself for you.
good luck brother GOOD SHIT!!!!!!!!! FOR YOU AND ONLY YOU!!!!!!!!!!! |
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| Author: | Impact [ Wed Feb 14, 2007 12:54 am ] |
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Crap im not going to read all the posts, ill just give my advice. First off all theres relationship coaches that deal with this shit and interest levels and all that rubbish.. heres a link to like 200 mp3 files you can listen about that stuff. http://www.worldtalkradio.com/show.asp?sid=202 - Impact |
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| Author: | Brianstorm [ Wed Feb 14, 2007 7:27 am ] |
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Well it depends completely on how much you actually feel for this girl and how serious it is. you have to ask yourself the question do you want it to go further do you want to have to try constantly to keep her interested or should she just be interested in everything you do already. I like what Custom has to say and what Element elaborated on. But you gotta ask yourself the important questions first. |
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