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| Author: | a3ghost [ Thu May 15, 2008 4:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girl is avoiding me? |
I have purposely stumbled upon this girl named Jen two times already. And both times she pretty much avoided me. The first time she walked faster than I did after school. The second time she went into the bathroom. Jen in the looks department are HB 8+. She is an immigrant from Europe and doesn't speak english great, but nonetheless comprehendible. Her social status is very low. I didn't see her at the prom. We had the senior yearbook signing and I didn't see her hanging out with any of her friends. This girl is basically perfect to practice out with. I don't feel intimidated at all of her like I do with other hot girls. But the problem is that shes avoiding me. What am I doing wrong? To better elaborate the story, I will give a simulation on what happened on the two encounters: Encounter 1: - Me: *Walks down the stairs and looks to the left* "Hey jen, whats up? Its been a while." - Jen: "Hey nothing much. " - Me: "What lunch period do you have?" - Jen: "I'm going home right now." - Me: "What?" - Jen: "I'm about to go home" - Me: "Oh okay. " - Jen: *Walks very fast and I lose her* I didn't want to follow her just because I didn't think it was necessary. There is always a tomorrow. I'd like to add that I've known her since my freshman year and I'm now a senior in high school. I used to hang out with her everyday my freshman year then we separated. Second Encounter: - Me: Goes out of my classroom to tie my shoelace. - Jen: *Puts her stuff in the locker* - Me: "Hey Jen." - Jen: "hey". *keeps on putting her stuff on her locker* - Me: I walk about 10 steps ahead of her and look back "So you going home right now?" - Jen: "Yeah." - Me: * I gave a body gesture as if I was waiting for her. Then I saw my friend that I really need to talk to and started talking to him. In my peripheral vision, I saw her go into the bathroom. I didn't want to wait for her because again, I didn't think it was necessary. I have 6 days left of school to get with her. I choose her because I actually envision myself winning her over. Everyone else has a boyfriend and their social status is alot higher than mines. What can and should I do? |
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| Author: | stereomuse [ Thu May 15, 2008 4:44 pm ] |
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i think you're over analyzing, it doesnt seem like shes avoiding you. you just havent initiated any reason for her to say. if you just say "hey, whats up" to a girl thats all shes going to get out of it. she just thinks your greeting her, if its during your lunch period and your aloud to leave be like, "hey im about to grab some food from this great place, you should come along," you cant just say hi to her and expect her to hang around, spark her interest, do something interesting! |
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| Author: | Marshy [ Thu May 15, 2008 5:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Ya man his right invite her with you as a friend after that |
Quote: "hey im about to grab some food from this great place, you should come along,"
you cant just say hi to her and expect her to hang around, spark her interest, do something interesting! |
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| Author: | Marshy [ Thu May 15, 2008 5:36 pm ] |
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my bad guys new to forums what i meant to say was you shouldnt worry about if shes avoiding because all you seem to do is just saying hi ,you cant get any where with out actually talking to her. you rather take her out as a friend and play the game on her as if you never knew her.so good luck man hope all goes well and you better tell us if you got her.  marshy
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| Author: | a3ghost [ Fri May 16, 2008 4:26 pm ] |
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Okay so i tried to talk to her today and said her name again but she just gave me a look for like half a second then looked away real quick. So we know that she doesn't have a slight bit of interest on me. Thats fine but now I pretty much have no "target" to practice with. I'm still in high school and stuff and a sr. But yeah I need good places to practice my game. Any advice? I'm just planning on hanging out with a friend and tagging along to his parties and stuff and eventually I will gain some social value / experience of talking to girls; or at least thats what I hope. |
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| Author: | rookie41102 [ Fri May 16, 2008 4:51 pm ] |
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You said she has low status right? Heres a metaphor or example of the attitude she may have: Think of an ugly ass girl...Who keeps to themselves and just doesnt bother anyone and noone pretty much talks to. Maybe gets made in fun of behind her back and shit. Sooo she keeps to herself. If someone remotely interesting or anyone in general comes and talks to her, she doesnt expect it. She already has built up a wall from everyone, so she just blows it off, like "ok why is this guy talking to me? no-one else does...what does he want, etc"... I think of that movie with freddie prinze jr. and that one girl that was nerdy @ 1st of the movie and his friends bet him to get her and shit. See how hard of a time he had to get her to open up? B/C no one has before so she assumes he has some agenda or wonders why the hell are you talking to me. Back when I was in HS we had a french exchange student, she was a hb8-9. She didnt speak alot of english it was more slurred or w/e you call it. B/c she was from euro. she and her accent she was insta popular. and she kept to herself. From remember from her and that exp. Id say she just doin her thing and doesnt expect anyone to pay attention to her. So its nothing against you. Just get some small talk in so she knows your there, then build it from there to bigger conversation. |
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| Author: | B-radd [ Fri May 16, 2008 5:15 pm ] |
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yeah i had the same problem in hs with a brazilian exchange student named gabriella. They are usually just super shy, cause most people at your school have been around each other there whole lives, and these girls get plunged in and arent ursed to the norms. So you need to get her comfortable with you, cause it sounds like she is nervous talking to you. Try learning a phrase in her native language, just something friendly, then say it to her casually sometime. It will show that you put the time in just to get her attention, and she will definately be interested b/c her language is in her comfort zone. Just talk about things she is comfortable about good luck 
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| Author: | a3ghost [ Fri May 16, 2008 6:13 pm ] |
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so i already had 4 encounters with her with nothing more than saying her name and saying hi. what should i do in the 5th time i encounter her? and I'm getting this hangup that people are watching me. Like my social status is pretty low too appearing only twice in the yearbook as a senior. Even some of the freshies are more popular than me, kinda sad. But yeah how do I overcome the feeling that my friends will see me holla-ing at this girl? |
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| Author: | Chino Kapone [ Fri May 16, 2008 6:26 pm ] |
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Listen to the posters above you. Learn a few phrases in her language. It shows that you took the time to get to know something about her. She will appreciate it and be more recpetive. The Freddie Prinze Jr. movie discussed about is a great example of how to do it. He took an intrest in what she was interested in to get to know her better. Just saying "Whats up?" is not going to get you anywhere. Something to do in high school especially is walk up to the kids in your class and say "Whats up?, What did you guys do this weekend?" Or, "You guys got big plans for the weekend?"Get the ball rolling and then be breezy, say "Good talkin with yall, I gotta bounce." It will show good social status and get you in a more talkative mood. |
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