no one is really a bad conversationalist some people just don't know how to go about it. Here is a simple technique I give to a lot of people that I have have cultivated from personal experience which makes a night and day difference.
Leave a lot of things open-ended in the discussion for her to be curious about (women are naturally curious). Make sure you give away as little at a time as possible so she has something to be curious about and get involved with. Also fill whatever you say with colorful emotion to make her constantly feel.
Instead making her sit there listening to you rant "I went to Vencice, Italy it was beautiful. I just spent two weeks there and we did X1, X2, X3, X4, X5."
Try like this...
You: “I just got back to the States”
Her: “Oh cool! Where did you go?”
You: “I went to Italy it was beautiful – We went hiking on some of the most amazing golden brown mountains in the world. there was gorgeous fields and mountains and immaculate architecture that just swept me away like nothing has ever done in my life.”
Her: “That sounds really amazing. What part did you go to?”
You: “Venice, I got to do some really wild stuff”
Her: “Cool! like what?”
It's even more ideal if you can start on something, get a woman wrapped in it and then end a convo and leave her wondering about how it ended(and thinking about you)
With this you can make a conversation that would otherwise be boring (you ranting about your trip) into an engaging and interactive story which she feels like she Is having input on even if you’re really controlling the conversation.
Another great advantage to this is that you leave her wondering (woman can’t walk away from curiousity like men can) and she will feel compelled to act upon that curiosity.
- Chris
